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| @ the family cemetary |
There is a method or process to making love
& meaning it
doesn't just happen, least not without intention
& all too often we settle for the small spark
boys learn in the back seat at first grace of the finger tip
& we know enough, peaking on the wake of puberty
descending in ever deflating atrophy - once we've
won them
it's no wonder partners lose interest, well over
the going rate of fifty percent - or just
find fantasy for a sense of fulfillment
letting her sleep in,
a warm womb of blankets
i slip out, slow
cook the bacon, sizzle-
pop, hot grease bites
along the inner arm
salt, enough to accentuate & pep-
per, to spice---don't pat
the pancakes, so they keep their fluffiness
& when the kids awake, feed them,
play a game, watch
Wile E Coyote miss RoadRunner
for the thousandth time
(and don't take it personally)
have them dressed, dishes washed
& laundry nearly folded when finally
her eyes crack the veil
then, climb back in beside,
not in front or behind her & whisper---
'good morning beautiful,
you just missed gramma--she's got the kids,
i thought we'd go shopping'
& on the table eggs congeal, breakfast spoils,
but i know it was noticed, even if uneaten
TRY THIS, you will fail, especially
if all you do is duplicate mine because it's based
on her dreams & to meet them, step one...
is to know them.
Happy Saturday everyone! I am in Missouri on vacation this week, but could not miss out on the finale of anniversary week @ dVerse Poets. Today for Poetics, Claudia will unveil our group reading of The Song of the Bell...as well as prompt us to write based on a process...well she'll explain it better when it opens at 3 pm.
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Awwww. I really felt this one, Brian. You're the best kind of partner.
Yes, indeed, meeting someone's dreams is no small thing; and to have someone love you who meets your dreams is HUGE! Enjoy your vacation.
"then, climb back in beside,
not in front or behind her & whisper---
'good morning beautiful,"
You just sat down and wrote this? they ask, and the answer is--as this poem so aptly points out--sort of, but no--this one took a lifetime. Or, this one I am still writing each day and hope I never finish. Step one: learning her/him daily . . .
What a dear gesture. Making love in many ways.
Enjoy the vacation!
Zowie! I'm here early...yes, it begins in the small gestures, it begins in the getting to know, it stays with the remembering which are important...just gorgeous.
Happy happy vacation!
I remember a poem you wrote before about slow cooking; it actually lead me to write about cooking which I will post in OLN.
I like the cooking and caring for the children (that cartoon never grows old). They learn first hand the real meaning of love and family ~
Enjoy your vacation ~ And I appreciated the group reading of everyone ~ Happy day ~
Ha, yes, that is truth. Beautifully said, and felt.
I agree that making love last is so much more than making love...
Enjoy your vacation with your beautiful family, Brian.
I like your recipe Brian. It certainly does take an investment of time and creativity.
Step one...yes, Brian...you've got it so right.
You've captured the way to a woman's heart....bacon opens oh, so many doors. ;)
You and your wife both sound extremely lucky.
Poem has that early pre-dawn feel to it, in best of ways. k.
Brian, you are THE most romantic poet. Have a wonderful vacation with your family.
Aw. Too bad you're already married. I'd of snapped you up in a New York Minute. Of course, then I'd be a cougar. And there is the part that I'm married. Still.
Yes you have found the right ingredients for sure!!
Good for you
Hugs
SueAnn
Sweet piece here today. If only I had known then. Oh well.
I think every woman who graces your page today is going to fall in love with your words!
... and will hope her boyfriend/husband reads this also!
Have a awesome vacay with your family.
Romance is in the air at your house, a lot. Love does need to be nurtured, fed, and taken for a test drive as much as possible to make sure all the parts are oiled and greased for whatever may happen to come up.
I think it falls into the category of use it or lose it kinda thing. Nice to see you do not want to lose it. And very nice of Gramma to give you a set of keys. Gramma's rock!!!
Hope all of you have a safe and wonderful vacation.
God bless.
Brian, you are a lucky man...and from the tone of your writing you deserve it, smiles man, for you and your fam...doing ok on my end, I guess.just injured.
Keep writing like this man, feels good!
Have a nice vacances and make love lol!
Beautiful words & acts, but especially the reminder... Your making HER dreams come true!!
Oh yesssss.... making love isn't just the sex act at all. It's all about before and after too. It's all in the romance and as you say, making some of their dreams come true no matter how small they are.
How truly lovely this is Brian. How romantic and so what love is all about. The whole thing made me smile.
Enjoy your vacation.
Meeting a dear one's bidding and both being happy about is great. This is interesting. Someone's dream in your hands is a big responsibility. Enjoy your vacation, Brian!
Hank
love is much about listening, creativity and --ah--now comes the bad word-- sacrifice---ugh..but it surely repays if we value our partner and with little things like this let them know that our love is more than just words (esp. important for us poets maybe)..smiles
You really know how to make your lady happy! :)
What a good man you are!
"Step one is to know them!" -- nice! Good job. :)
Hi Brian,
From my site, I'm sorry about your friend moving away. That changes things and is hard; and normal to grieve. I understand.
Jennifer Dougan
www.jenniferdougan.com
To meet them... is to know them.
Relationship is much different from lust isn't it :)
beautiful, and whatever your process is you play it well... i love the final lines and step one especially - it really is that simple (but people will go on buying their mags, listening to what some self-proclaimed love guru proclaims is bound to work)
"TRY THIS, and you will fail," maybe not completely (I think for a good number of women this would work), but in the long run...
you must truely know them!
Enjoy your vacation! And in case I haven't said it yet (never really been good at words when they're not just being thrown out into the ether for no one or anyone), thank for all your time and effort at dVerse and for the feedback and encouragement you provide. oh, and especially for the 'smiles'!
"& all too often we settle for the small spark
boys learn in the back seat at first grace of the finger tip" ... What a fantastic, creative way to say it without saying it.
Your innuendo in this section is so good:
"cook the bacon, sizzle-
pop, hot grease bites
along the inner arm
salt, enough to accentuate & pep-
per, to spice---don't pat
the pancakes, so they keep their fluffiness"
You cracked me up with "don't pat the pancakes" ... :)
"it's based
on her dreams & to meet them, step one...
is to know them"
You rock and a writer and a husband. This is an amazing poem ... rules to live by indeed.
My dreams always involve sushi and coffee. :)
Susan makes a great point that it takes a lifetime of studying. People change, and so do their dreams.
When I read Pat's comment about snapping you up, I hadn't looked at the picture yet and totally thought it was Pat Hatt! You two would make a lovely couple. ;)
Step one so often gets missed. Thank you.
Spot on brotha :)
enjoy the vacation
Yeah, this works for me. I metaphorically smoking a cigarette now. :)
Ohhhh...:))
I simply loved this.
And I am sure there are times you dazzle her with your manly prowess, or offer her silence, comfortable & affectionate. A walk in the inky summer air...
Perhaps I should try this in the morning... at least I know who to blame! ;) Great stuff Brian.
"There is a method or process to making love & meaning it..."
Hi! Brian...
I have to echo the words Of some Of the previous commenter too...
...How lucky you, are... [how lucky they are too!...your wife and sons]...to know the "secret"
to Make love & mean it..."
Tks, for sharing the image too!
deedee :-D
Brian...
I hope that you have a nice vacation and a great week-end too!
This was lovely...it takes work & understanding to make a marriage, as well as love...I loved the intimacy in this...& I hope you have a fab vacation! :)
Awwww, I hope a few men learn from this. :)
This is so great- so personal...love everything from the hot oil biting your arm, to the breakfast polling and the...well... you know...the sentiment! He he..... There is so much in this poem that is understated- and you create feelings rather than 'just explain it' if that makes sense- great poem my friend
Hi Brian, well as I said on Twitter, I thought this was just beautifully done and I loved how you shaped the poem to bring it to a close with a sense of a secret intimacy that only two trusting and secure lovers could know and share together.
Now, THIS is sexy!
The better you know someone, usually, the more you love them. It requires trust, honor and an open heart - all reflected in all of your poetry.
Yes, lovely. I agree all we do is best when done consciously, intentionally. And love, well what a canvas for creativity.
So true :) enjoy your vacation. I hope you and your family have a great time. :)
My reaction would have been, "Would you please get up and give me a hand with the kids!" hahaha
Love is beautiful. (｡◕‿◕｡)
Beautiful! Such small things, and yet they add up to a lifetime of happiness. Much better than a pricey "oh my god I've got to get him/her something for the current holiday" gift.
Doing for her
Surely won't ruffle any fur
And yeah each has to know
What makes the other glow
As a copy cat
Is no better than a dirty rat
Enjoy the vacation too
Even if you are still around to view
Yes, it goes without saying that you must know the person to whom you wish to make love to...and that means not just the physical act but feeding the kids, folding the laundry, etc...actually thinking and caring about the benefit for the other. Ahh...beautiful, Brian!
Very nice. :) Love the conclusion, sure one can follow the steps but it won't work unless you know what the person you love likes or wants and what pleases them. The first and most important thing put in the final lines leaves a lasting impression. Beautiful.
Hah! I felt that splat of bacon fat on my arm ... simple truths are the best - super
You're so good to me....it's the small things that are huge in a woman's eyes and great foreplay as well ;) You had me at folded the laundry, dressed and fed the kids and picked up the house!! Bacon and coffee can wait!
Sleeping in, breakfast, kids gone and shopping!!!!winning!
Making love in so many little thoughtful ways...why am I not surprised by your writing? Hats off!
You knocked it out of the park with this one Brian. I'm married to a man who thinks and does like this too. Good stuff.
Groovy poem brother, and you are right on about dreams and how to make love mean something. Peace.
Very nicely done. Love the ending and a great metaphor. Hope you have a nice time away, never been there, but heard good things about it.
authentic.
Great piece of writing!
Fabulous write - and damned good, common sense advice to boot!
Grande Finale indeed, you wonderful husband you, enjoy your holidays, and much fun for the 4 or is 5 of you lol
This is such the perfect description of love learned over the years. The music to my ears? "good morning beautiful" and "i thought we'd go shopping". Now that's real love!
Great write, Brian, and I can attest to its success rate. And you are correct; there is no set formula; it's a case-to-case situation.
a sensitive poet you are... and wise
Nice ! glad you pulled it off-
Sounds like a lot of planning for one who has no dream and another that sleeps while they dream. Seduction though is a necessary art practiced among the young, us old folks just laugh as we just get naked.
Aw. This is so sweet. It takes a lot of gamble and compromise to make a marriage work. Hope someone would do this for me.
yes. there are many small ways to make love last and last and last. we are such complex creatures, we humans. and fortunately, sometimes quite simple too. it really is the small touches that hold a lengthy marriage together. and you write it so easily here.
Nice one Brian. I especially enjoyed the words on thinking in one's own right, making it spontaneously yours, personal; cause in romance, imitation is not the greatest compliment. As it is, one must remain aware of our beloved's needs, as mundane and sometimes unromantic as that might be. That 50 percent number you quote is significant, since a large percentage of that involves disagreements over household chores.
Love is knowing its there...be it the tea cold and the toast burnt
thats how the path of true love runs :) excellent..
And what did the pastor say about this one, Brian? :-)
This is simply beautiful! I like, a warm womb of blankets, very well done, and yes... with the poetry as well ;)
awesome poem brian :)
awesome job brian
Def sent me off in several directions, first one
being that you are too much of the "perfect"
loving husband, too sensitive, too accommodating,
and then the last lines made me think you were
putting us on, describing the perfect dream
husband that cannot exist in reality, and then
I circled back, read your wife's comment, and
realized that you had a husband's apex moment,
and one wonders how many of those you pull off
in a month, and just good on you, sir; fine piece.
Oh if only,if only!
Beautiful! You are my kind of romantic and you know what the words making love means. Reality and romance intertwined, at all times.;)
Enjoy your vacation dear Brian.;))
xoxo
Brian- you know your partner which means you truly love your partner-wow!
Another great piece, Brian. I loved the blend of down-to-earth and fantasy--so often we think we have to choose one or the other. And "advice" ending is fabulous--as though anyone could ever hope to imitate your expression of love. That's one lucky lady and family you have. :) Thanks for your feedback on mine as well!
Crying.
From the beauty.
"First step: know them."
LOVELY.
Yes, that's what it's all about. Beautiful.
What a delightful poem ... and message. :)
We each need to find that special formula that works in our relationships. I like the way you think though. :)
[That deletion above was me making a silly typo.]
I loved Susan's early comment. It described what I was thinking about all this tells about all you are for her.
"it's based
on her dreams & to meet them, step one...
is to know them." -
lovely poem brian!
and true, one should not imitate, but as a guideline and inspiration, oh yes ;-)
Loving gestures get rewarded in many ways. I am also a lucky woman to have a hubby who does similar things. Have a great vacay!!!
Nice to have so strong a bond and keep it vibrant. Doing the same here, man.
She is a lucky lady.
And there is def more than one kind of lovemaking.
=)
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