Tuesday, November 23, 2010

one shot: the ugly, truth

if i had money
i would get plastic surgery
(if you have seen my nose
you would understand)
and isn't that the
way it goes, we see
something we don't like
(or looks better
on another
when we look
in the mirror)
so we get it fixed
as if it went deeper
than our epidermis

who says you are unworthy
who says you are unlovable
who set them up
as king to dictate
reality in the lives
of those around them.

i say we grab torches
storm the castle
and overthrow the mockery.

you want to see some
beauty, here borrow
my eyes when i look
at you (not the way i
look at myself...its all
comparison, you know)
but really it will never
come from the words
of another because they
are as flawed as that
puppet king we already
tossed, trussed up in
his own vile tongue,

you are beautiful, you
are beautiful, YOU ARE
BEAUTIFUL...and one day i hope
you believe it & stop
mutilating yourself with
the lies you've been fed
& realise we are all just
stained glass windows, broken
glass pieces put back
together, (without need
of a scalpel) casting rainbows
on each other as the sun
shines through & that
is beautiful too.

& i think, after all,
i will keep my nose.

This One Shot goes out to all those that have been told they are ugly, unworthy of love, decrepit, hopeless, less than, unable, flawed, too broken, helpless, forgotten...you are not. You are a beautiful creation. You are loved.

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129 comments:

the walking man said...

Hear! Hear! Brian. Please I have had my face rearranged more times than I can remember and each time was fun once I got out of the alley.

Lorraine said...

YOU are beautiful...I'm with you here a 100%

Vicki Lane said...

Wonderful truths, powerfully told. A nice thing about the Internet is getting to know people without the distraction of how they look. (of course, it can be dangerous too...)

MorningAJ said...

That's one of the best things I've read in quite a while. And just about the time when I most needed it. Thank you. You are beautiful too!
(And so are your words)

Crystal Jigsaw said...

We each have beauty within us. Either in words or pictures.

CJ xx

Bonnie said...

Thank you. I needed that.

See yourself through the eyes of your loved ones, then you will be forever assured that you are beautiful.

Daniel said...

Wow, quite beautiful, ..., quite beautiful.

slommler said...

Thank you Brian...you are beautiful too! I like the idea of stained glass windows...pieces gently held together...strong and lovely!!
Hugs
SueAnn

JStar said...

Thanks for the reminder Brian :) We all need to hear this from time to time

Birdie said...

this is so wonderful Brian!!! I know that now myself, pitty I didn't know it when I was 20 ... and it all starts back home - what values we teach to our children, how strong we build them so that they can face the pressure of the stupid ones ... sigh. Your words are beautiful and so are you Brian!!! happy day!

Betsy said...

Brian ~ you did it again...I have a new favorite here. :)

Gaston Studio said...

Beautifully done Brian, and I, too, love the stained glass windows which, when put together, give off another beauty and so much light.

LOL at the walking man's comment!

Candie Bracci said...

Now this is really nice Brian :)

Melinda Owens said...

"as if it went deeper than our epidermis"...love that line, so true. what lies we believe. very nice one shot, and so uplifting.

TechnoBabe said...

Yep, keep it all. I am keeping what I was given at birth and no complaining from me. No bragging either though. To be so caught up in the competition of the outside appearance is so sad, when will it be important to see the inside?

Ocean Girl said...

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Thank you Brian. It is nice to be back. Especially after seeing your smiles :)

C.M. Jackson said...

you are on a roll...beautiful work cyrano!

Goofball said...

your nose is beautiful

Hope said...

this is so beautiful, Brian!
you speak words that i'm sure many of us ponder from time to time and then come to the same conclusion. I think for my case, the surgery would be to much of a risk to take

love this part, 'we are all just stained glass windows, broken glass pieces put back together (without the scalpel), casting rainbows on each other as the sun shines through and that is beautiful too'

wonderfully written piece!

thank you :)

liza said...

This is beautiful...THIS is BEAUTIFUL...THIS IS BEAUTIFUL!!!! Wonderfully said!

Lori said...

Beautiful! I am going to have my 11 year old granddaughter read this today as this is something her and I have been talking about. Thank you for this reminder Brian...there are days I really really struggle with this.

Hope your Tuesday is terrific. XX

Anonymous said...

loved the last few lines the most. we should act like stained glass windows and make others beautiful.

trisha
mydomainpvt.wordpress.com

David Waters said...

I thought of going plastic...then I watched Joan Rivers on tv....

AmyLK said...

Great post! If only so many could hear this and believe......

Valerie said...

Quite Remarkable!

Kathy's Klothesline said...

I have a friend who seeks her youth. She can't seem to stop herself, a little tuck here a little pull there.......... she is slowly disappearing as she re-invents herself. I look in the mirror and see who I am becoming with each new wrinkle. I confess that I sometimes lift the area over my eyes and think I would look better with a little help from the surgeon, but then wonder if it is worth it and have decided that it is not. Thanks for the reminder.

Caty said...

"you want to see some beauty, here borrow my eyes when i look at you"
My favorite lines, but I think the whole thing needs to be printed and handed out at middle and high schools. Although, us adults needed to hear it too :) Nice write, Brian.

Mitr Friend - Bhushavali said...

Remembering when someone dedicated me Akon's 'You're so beautiful'!!! That was when I was just up from the bed without even a trace of make-up!!!
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Miss Nikki said...

"we are all just
stained glass windows, broken
glass pieces put back
together"
...awesome!

Slamdunk said...

I am with you Brian. Right after I reseed my bald head with new hair follicles.

Maggie May said...

I used to think I'd like to do something about my neck!
However, guess it is beautiful in its own kind of way. In spite of it being thick and floppy underneath.LOL!
Beautiful poem.
Maggie X

Nuts in May

mama-face said...

a woman once told me that she was having plastic surgery and she wanted her nose to look like mine. she was dead serious. i had never given my nose a second thought. but i zone in on my perceived faults and dwell on them probably all the time, consciously and unconsciously. (once again, i take your thoughts and make them about me).

i always thought it was only women who had these doubts. hmmm. you are a great teacher and philosopher.

Mama Wheaton said...

Ok I'm beautiful! Well maybe not first thing in the morning before I've had some coffee.

budh.aaah said...

Oh it brings tears to my eyes..so beautifully written. You get better every time I come here Brian.

Hilary said...

Beautiful.. as your sentiments always are. I once ran into a relative (by marriage)'s father at a shopping mall. He said his wife was in one of the stores shopping at the moment but when she was done, she was going to have some plastic surgery. I was stunned because she sure didn't seem the type to worry about aging so I assumed it was not cosmetic but a necessary procedure. He winked at me and continued before I could ask..."Yeah, when she's done shopping today, I'm cutting up all her credit cards." ;)

natalee said...

Brian.. you touched a nerve my little sis was 400 lbs ..she had gastric bypass.. now looks like a model.. but still she sees herself as ugly fat and unworthy..thus dating every idiotic jerk in nj... im printing this out if its ok with you and leaving it in her purse...

Mona said...

That was powerful.

Come to think of it, what is wrong with your nose?....

...until you are Pinocchio of course...

moondustwriter said...

A perfect reminder Bri
Our society is so beauty bound but what about character and intelligence and talent???

A thoughtful One Shot

moonie smiles

Tina said...

Loved the stained glass window analogy. It speaks in so many layers.

william said...

you said it perfectly mate, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, great post ::)

Bernie said...

Why do people only see the flaws and not the beauty. Great post!...Hugs

Heather said...

i'm in awe of this one. i want to print it out and remind myself of this, and pass it along to my daughters. this was amazing....thank you

Joanna Jenkins said...

I'm printing this out and posting it next to my lighted magnifying make-up mirror :-)

"i say we grab torches
storm the castle
and overthrow the mockery."

Amen to that!!!!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours! xo pk

♥ Boomer ♥ said...

When I was 25, I had a deviated septum the doctor fixed. Before surgery, he suggested that he shorten my beautiful Roman nose, and I agreed, still believing the grass was greener on the other side.

Huge regret. Huge.

Kim A. said...

I'm sitting here with my front tooth missing. I have a crown that finally came loose and it will be January till I can get it replaced so until then, I look like an extra from Deliverance. You have no idea how much I needed this post today. This is getting bookmarked...you are amazing...just amazing...

♥namaste♥

Gabriela Abalo said...

"Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart." ~Kahlil Gibran


great one shot :)

drybottomgirl said...

Awesome! One of the greatest gifts in life is self love. May you have it always....:)

Eva Gallant said...

I love the idea that we are all like stained glass....who's ever seen stained glass with the sun shining through it that was ugly?

nance marie said...

you offer a precious gift~~~

Christina said...

We are our own worst enemy and critic.

Shell said...

you want to see some beauty, here borrow my eyes when I look at you....

What a glorious line, Brian.

Beautiful words all around. And, I'm keeping my imperfect nose too...

~shell

Scott said...

How did you know?

Claudia said...

yes, let's grab torches and
storm the castle!
you are so encouraging brian miller and i love the capital letters...so maybe i have to re-write last week's 160..smiles

anthonynorth said...

You do right. Great message.

Janice said...

True, true, and TRUE!!! This blew me away. I've thought these same thoughts, and I believe in everything you wrote; but the incredible way you assembled your words is what made this a fresh and powerful read for me.

repressedsoul said...

Where can I get a man like you! Or a mirror that lies ;)Great write once again and very true. Shame we all over analyse ourselves and can't see what others do sometimes.

Thanks for sharing Brian

Shan
@Awdures

mel said...

a powerful, powerful message...

thank you for the reminder...

signed...bkm said...

never believe what anyone says...we all are beautiful, worthy and blessed with life....nice write Brian...Yes, keep the nose...bkm

Carrie Burtt said...

Brian this is truly awesome....a powerful message written with passion and a true beautiful heart!
:-)

Teresa said...

What a wonderful poem! We all need to hear how wonderful we are, just the way we are. Great one shot!

Monkey Man said...

So sad how we fill people's heads with the need for the subjective perfect. Well said.

CM said...

Oh how I would love to believe this, but I think women especially have trouble seeing their inner beauty...or even their outside beauty! We always see the negative...the baby belly with the last 5, 10, 15 lbs we can't seem to lose, the wrinkles, the tired eyes, ect. But it's nice to be reminded sometimes that what we see isn't always what others see.

Glad you kept your nose :-)

Strummed Words said...

Thanks for the words of support:)

River said...

I'll do it. Take mockery down!

I believe this one of my favorites. Great job. Love it. :)

Pauline said...

not only do you write good, you make me feel good ;)

e said...

Lovely sentiments and so well put...Bravo!

Linda said...

This one speaks to me Brian. What a marvelous way to speak truth!

SuziCate said...

we are all just
stained glass windows, broken
glass pieces put back
together -excellent

shewriting said...

well stated! Glad you decided to keep your nose...like you said, "its all comparison"...

someone else will always have a bigger, better, something than me and some a smaller, worse, whatever than me...I kind of like being within the bell curve these days :)

I seem to experience less stress when I keep my eyes on myself instead of others as well.

Jaime said...

there's always something to be dissatisfied with in the mirror. i've hated my nose ever since my sister broke it in a nasty fight :p

TALON said...

Beautiful, Brian.

kkrige said...

sweet thoughts Brian. Nice

Syd said...

Beautiful Brian. I think this one went to the heart.

Gigi Ann said...

When we are young we think outer beauty is the most important thing. However, as the years go by, the outer beauty goes, and we realize the inner beauty is what is most important, it stays with you a lifetime.

I enjoyed your poem and that's 'the ugly truth.'

ds said...

YOU are beautiful for having written this. I love the image of the stained glass--perfect.
Thank you.

gospelwriter said...

beautiful poem and sentiments

you want to see some
beauty, here borrow
my eyes when i look
at you


I have sometimes wanted to say that to people I know... maybe I will now :)

and the part about being stained glass windows, put back together - love it

PattiKen said...

I love the message in this. If only people could see the beauty in themselves, plastic surgeons would go out of business.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Matty said...

I have a big nose. It's smack dab in the middle of my face and there's nothing I can do about it. But my wife thinks I'm attractive and that's all that matters.

The Empress said...

and wouldn't the world be a different place, if we all just were happy with who we were??

Sophia said...

Speechless...such a powerful, powerful piece, full of wisdom and truth. Words that can maybe begin to bring healing to those who have fallen prey to such cruel words. Brill piece, Brian.

Shail Raghuvanshi said...

Just loved it Brian. All your poems are thought provoking. Keep inspiring others as you always do...

Helena Malheur said...

Fantastic poem! loved the subject matter and the way you address it... well said!

I loved these lines

"you want to see some
beauty, here borrow
my eyes when i look
at you"


it is subjective indeed and we place so much emphasis on beauty of skin rather than depth of character, it is a shame isn't it? Beauty is on the inside - has been said before, but can not be said enough!

kavisionz said...

Applause!!!!
No no.. Standing ovation!!

Don't ever bother redoing that nose, Bri! (be it fact or fiction) :)

What a lovely message you have conveyed here, B.. I absolutely loved that last stanza.. where you say we are all broken pieces of glass, throwing our light on each other.. That was simply superb!! I love your imagery, and the words you put to it!!
Kudos!!

Zuzana said...

This was indeed beuatiful dear Brian. There are so many people out there who are stunning beauties and they do not see it themselves when they gaze in the mirror.
You always write so poignantly...
Have a lovely day,
xoxo

One Stop - The Place For Poets, Writers and Artists said...

bri...as always a wonderful write...i understand the sentiments here only too well...Pete

Cheryl said...

Love the stain glass imagery. Perfect analogy.

Debbie said...

Love it!
And th truth is that the epidermis is an easier fix that what is under it.

blueviolet said...

I wish it was as easy as that...

Everyday Goddess said...

so true. well said!

Raven said...

Beautiful. Simply beautiful. And so true. Our society is so obsessed with a particular kind of beauty and it's sad that so many are willing to go to such drastic lengths to adhere to that ideal.

BLOGitse said...

Plastic surgery is endless path...first this and then that...
There is no such thing as a perfect human.
Greetings from white Helsinki!

dustus said...

"we are all just stained glass windows" great line in a powerful write. The poem has a in-your-face tone, which is perfect for the subject matter. Happy Thanksgiving!

LauraX said...

oh Brian...yes...if only we could all see ourselves with the love and acceptance we are capable of viewing others with...if only we could see ALL OTHERS that way, and not just some...and in truth, we can...it is practice...it doesn't happen overnight...and we may fail to "see" Divine beauty ALL the time...but if we work on it, if we practice with ourselves, with those around us...the ripples will of love and acceptance and TRUE SEEING will expand and penetrate.

Such a beautiful poem my friend...from a truly beautiful human being.

namaste

hedgewitch said...

There's a castle that seriously needs storming. This was like a rousing chorus of the Marseillaise. Back in the Sixties is was all about being natural, letting yourself be unbounded by bras and hair spray and artificiality in general. It may have been just as much a pose as today's emphasis on physical perfection, but it was a pleasant and healthy pose, and I miss it.

amyeverett said...

This also touched me, I battle with this every day. You have no idea, this is very powerful.. Thank you

Kay said...

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! And that nose never looked better on anyone! :)

Eric Alder said...

The world would be a much better place if we all looked the same, ugly or otherwise, so people wouldn't obsess over those minor diffences. Nice Shot, Brian!

Little Ms Blogger said...

Great post and very true. Whenever I hear my friends and family describe me, I'm always thinking this person sounds great.

I like me, for the most part, but am truly my biggest critic.

Happy Thanksgiving.

ladyfi said...

Hear hear.. so beautiful and uplifting. This brought a tear to my eye.

Myrna R. said...

Brian, this is a wonderful poem. Your wisdom and your talent continue to grow magnificently. Thank you for recognizing beauty, it is within you.

The Exception said...

Brian –
Well put. It is easier to see the beauty in another or in the world at large than it sometimes is to recognize our own beauty – and yet, we, like those around us, are each beautiful. A few months ago I engaged in an artistic venture to find my own beauty. The results are my submission for this One Shot… I like her!

Have a warm and loving Thanksgiving.

Sh@s said...

You have beautifully portrayed a wonderful thought.
Feel like reading it over and over again :)

ModernMom said...

"...borrow my eyes when I look" Oh if only us Mom's could do that for our daughters!

Love this.

Steve said...

Fun sentiment, good rough draft. The flow was thrown off by so many parentheses (and I read this aloud several times), but otherwise this was good.

Apologies if this critique seems direct, but the object of this list is to encourage us, make us better writers, right? Given your past excellence, I've no doubt you could fix this poem's flow with a few choice cuts and edits.

Like any non-editor critique this is just an opinion, a suggestion, and ultimately, it's YOUR work! :)

Baino said...

Aww of course I agree but sadly, If I were rich, yeh there's a couple of things I'd work on in a flash. Having said that, when you are loved, and told you're beautiful anyway,it's the most incredible feeling.

Rene/ Not The Rockefellers said...

*sniff
you really think so?!

hugs :)

Madame DeFarge said...

A good call to arms if ever I heard one. Everyone can be beautiful. It's only personalities that are truly ugly.

She Writes said...

Is it wrong to say a man is beautiful? Beautiful, Brian.

Fireblossom said...

Nothing I can say is going to reflect how I feel about this poem, Brian. You have given a tremendous gift to me, and to so many others, with this beautiful piece of writing straight from the heart. Thank you, my friend.

Mama Zen said...

Powerful piece, Brian!

Jannie Funster said...

One of the all-time best F'ing best poems in the universe!!

xoxo

Happy Thanksgiving.

Laura said...

I love this:

you want to see some
beauty, here borrow
my eyes when i look
at you

Breathless.

Paul C said...

'we are all just
stained glass windows, broken
glass pieces put back
together,' This is a most vital metaphor for our broken lives who seek meaning and connection in our disparate world.

otin said...

"ugly, unworthy of love, decrepit, hopeless, less than, unable, flawed, too broken, helpless, forgotten.."

sounds like it would be a good yellow pages slogan for a divorce lawyer! hehehe

Magpie said...

You really are touching a nerve with this one, Brian. We're all so critical of ourselves and sometimes each other. If only we could understand and focus on what is really important.

only a movie said...

So important to keep putting out there...

Jill said...

A wonderful pitch fork into all the Puppet Kings in the world.

Pat said...

Thank you.....just,.....thank you. :)

deola said...

hi, this is good

June_Butterfly said...

I agree!!You're beautiful and this is beautiful!

And will keep in mind.if I want to see beauty will try to borrow your eyes,haha.LOVE THIS,Brian!

And like you,am gonna keep my nose,too!*winks*

Who Is Afraid of Alfred Hitchcock? said...

Hi! Brian...
This post is so very revealing...I wonder when will man(woman)kind learn that real "beauty" is "internal" and how you treat others is the most important thing on this earth.

"External" beauty is it...fleeting?

Brian, I hope that you, (and your family and friends) and your readers, and their families and friends have a safe, peaceful Thanksgiving!

Take care!
DeeDee ;-D

Mighty M said...

Aw Brian........thanks. :)

California Girl said...

One shot is beautiful
I am humbled, even more so.

OJ Gonzalez-Cazares said...

Beauty is such an abstract and personal concept...beautiful poem in a direct, non-abstract way!

Shashi said...

Dear Brian
Very well said.. I enjoyed it. Thanks

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Melissa Campbell said...

There are so many people I wish could read this. Your words are beautiful and your heart shines through like the stained-glass windows. Love it!

secret agent woman said...

Most of us aren't completely happy with our looks, and yet, we really are all beautiful. I believe that.

Otter Thomas said...

So perfectly said.

Marla said...

Getting bleary eyed again.