Monday, June 28, 2010

date night ass.umptions

i called you on the cell phone...asked you out on a date
being married...i could have assumed
you would want to go with me...

people do that too much....assume...especially once
they are married...but you know...what happens
when you ass.u.me...

but you said yes.

we see a movie, The Last Song...choppy story,
poor acting and predictable lines...more like an after school
special...tore me between wanting it to over and just being with you...

air conditioning cranked until frigid...you snuggle in...
leaving buttery fingerprints up and down my shirt...
probably won't come out in the wash...but i wear them proudly...

the moon is bright...boys staying at gramma's tonight...
watching stars blaze trails...across the ebony sky...
this could be my lucky night...but i won't assume that either...

but you say yes.

...especially when i don't assume.

102 comments:

Wings said...

I think we can assume the rest. ;)

william said...

very romantic mate, well written, as always, take care /:)

Steven Anthony said...

I loved this....life is full of assumptions...its nice to be surprised once in awhile...butter prints and all ;)

Meeko Fabulous said...

I HATE THE WAY THOSE BUTTER STAINS DON'T COME OUT!!!

TALON said...

I love "date nights" when you're married. They bring back the little rush of anticipation.

Having a huband who will pick up the phone and ask his wife out is really neat. Sounds like a lovely evening, Brian, even if the movie wasn't that good :)

King of New York Hacks said...

I will assume that in the final moments in a very near background there was music playing that went something like this..."chicka pow pow"...LOL...but then again I know I'm an ass. LOL , well written and so true.

Susan said...

That was very romantic. Sometimes the best things happen when we don't plan or assume anything, right? And I liked your interpretation of the word- ass.u.me.
Thank You for commenting about 'What Women Want.' It was an article written from a typical Indian cultural context. And you understood it so well.I wish that the men in my country too understood it that easily.
Susan

Ed Pilolla said...

sounds like a lucky night for sure. lots of fun. great detail with the buttered fingerprints:)

Eva Gallant said...

Lucky you, in more ways than one. That was sweet! Does your wife know how lucky she is?

Tracy said...

Date night! Very nice.

Daniel said...

Ahh, the distinct markings of wisdom. Good show.

5thsister said...

Movie tickets: $25
Drinks and popcorn: $15
New shirt: $35

Romantic night with wife? Priceless!

Cheryl said...

This was a perfectly written piece about a perfectly difficult topic in marriages and all good relationships.

The details are stunning.

otin said...

Just having the kids gone can be a lucky night in itself! lol

Mmm said...

Well, really, can it get any better than that? Wonderful. :)

Tina said...

Thanks for sharing something so personal. I think I'm going to go plan a date night right now. We take turns. And I'm craving popcorn! Nice piece.

e said...

How lovely for you both, Brian!

blueviolet said...

And you have a big ass grin on your face right now, don't you?

TechnoBabe said...

Lovely. I am so happy for you.

She Writes said...

Ah, I think it is safe to assume some things here :).

slommler said...

'Tis good to not assume!! Glad you had a wonderful date and a sweet night too!!
Hugs
SueAnn

Maggie said...

That sounded like a lovely night! :)

Bonnie said...

I'm assuming it all payed off! I wonder what assumptions she was making. Obviously ones similar to yours. Sweet.

Giulia said...

You clever & wise man. How true.

Paul Andrew Russell said...

This is a lovely piece of writing, Brian. I'll definitely be back to read more of your blog.

Paul Andrew Russell said...

This is a lovely piece of writing, Brian. I'll definitely be back to read more of your blog.

Brian Miller said...

bv...perma-grin

Monkey Man said...

Date night with the wife.
Always a good thing.

ds said...

Imagine you'll be wearing those buttery fingerprints proudly for quite some time. Wives everywhere are thanking you for making the effort to not assume (and wishing you would pass the wisdom along)...

Respectfully Yours said...

I love date nights.

Totally romantic...you want to touch her, you want to kiss her...you want to....

Hugs to you both.

dustus said...

Great writing piece. Complex, creative language use. awesome

signed...bkm said...

Wonderful...never assume and you remain happily married...we all have needs and at times watching and holding hands is the most wonderful thing in the world....well written as always....bkm

Me said...

Seriously, Brian...you really ought to offer a "how to knock your wife's socks off" course...!

My husband plays video games in HIS spare time. Not very poetic, that...

*sigh*

:)

-Corrie

Luisa Doraz said...

Romance is meant to be fun and mysterious. :) Nicely done. :)

The Retired One said...

Ahhh, very sweet, Brian!! It's okay about the buttery fingerprints up your shirt...that is what SHOUT is all about. ha
Ass.u.me....LOVED IT!

tori said...

I wish more men wouldn't assume...

Bossy Betty said...

Love the date night AND the asumptions!

Mama Zen said...

You are a wise man, Brian.

Debbie said...

Awww. How sweet.

Mr. Stupid said...

Wow. Sounds like a beautiful evening, even though the movie was not so good. But that doesn't matter as long as you both had a good time.

Heartspell said...

This is very sweet on both your parts. I'm glad that some of us hang on to that even after years and years have passed. We are the lucky ones....Lucky in Love. Heartspell

Little Ms Blogger said...

It's obvious how happy you are -- it comes out clearly in this post.

Bernie said...

An ass is between u and me....I remember being told that once when I said I had assumed something.

Very well written .... :-) Hugs

LadyFi said...

Romantic and lovely!

The Urban Cowboy said...

Beautiful description of a 'date night' along with the meaning. Nicely written

Susan Deborah said...

Reading the comments here is a delight. I liked 5thsister's one. Whacky.

Your posts are so very simple but they make you laugh and enjoy the moment spent reading. "ass u me" was the best! Sometimes for love it's nice to be an ass rather than 'a know-it-all.'

Joy always,
Susan

Cloudia said...

you sly poet!






Aloha from Waikiki

Comfort Spiral

Marla said...

This one really made me smile. Good job loverboy! :-)

Magpie said...

Great job. Love that she said yes!

Dot-Com said...

So true, we assume a lot when we shouldn't, and when we stop we probably could. Hmmm! Well written :)

Goofball said...

very sweeeeeeeet

Eternally Distracted said...

I'm sure I can see you smile over here in the desert!!

Alan Burnett said...

structured to perfection - you are an architect with words Brian

Candie Bracci said...

Paradox?When you don't expect anything,you get what you need.It is so nice to read you again Brian!
Have a nice day :)

Just Be Real said...

Sweet Brian. Thank you for sharing.

Lorraine said...

That is fantastic and humourous and non ass.umptious, buttery finger lol

Claudia said...

So you asked your wife out for a date - by ringing her up- so romantic - so well written - and you suffered, looking a girl's movie - that I call real love. You deserve the buttery fingerprints and all that followed...smiles

sheila said...

Damned butter stains.

Anonymous said...

a well written piece .bravo brian.wordwand

Rob said...

One of your best posts

Joanie M said...

sounds like a perfect date.

Vicki Lane said...

So sweet...and buttery!

island of peace said...

just like wings said- we can assume the rest.

island of peace said...

just like wings said- we can assume the rest.

SuziCate said...

Some things are worth buttery fingerprints! Lovely writing.

secret agent woman said...

Date nights - so important in a marriage. It was always those little romantic things I treasured.

The Empress said...

Oh, that is so sweet, that tears came to my eyes.

You are a wonderful husband. It seems like you and your wife bring out the best in each other.

I loved this.

thank you.

Kay said...

at least you get it! haha boy do I know some boys that could use that advise... if only it would stick...

:)

You're a remarkable family!

Mona said...

Yea, you are right :) things happen when you least expect them to happen.

But that can be as much a damper as a delight.

Like they say, right thing at the right time is a rarity...

Grand Pooba said...

Haha! I love it!

Especially the buttery fingerprints. You're so cute!

Everyday Goddess said...

date nights are so dreamy!

ps
can you give me a bit of detail on the 160 challenge? I may have one brewing...

Nancy said...

Hope you had a great night! :-)

drybottomgirl said...

The problem with assumptions is that they take us out of the moment and into the future where nothing is certain. Better to let events unfold naturally it usually brings a sweeter prize than what we expected......

Captain Dumbass said...

Date night? Damn, do we ever need one of those about now.

JStar said...

:) This is sweet Brian...Do you have any brothers :)

natalee said...

aww i love date night with my hubby..aren't they great!!!!!

AmyLK said...

What a lovely, romantic evening! Those darn butter stains!

Kaylen said...

Awwwww, sounds like a great date night was had. No assumptions made, but I think we all know how it ends...

Help! Mama Remote... said...

I assume this was their wife?

Sam Liu said...

Your are such a wonderful observer of humanity and love, Brian. This is charmingly romantic, and marvellously written, as always.

joanny said...

Oh how we all tend to ass u me too much.

Interesting tale, enjoyable read.

Joanny

Baino said...

Try Preen! It'll get those stains out. For a moment, just a moment I thought you were pointing at infidelity there.

Jen said...

So many men assume even before they are married. It's good you are not one of those men.

kkrige said...

ahh, you are too sweet! God, you almost make me sick. ;) just with jealousy though. Glad you enjoyed "date night". You deserve it!

Eleonora said...

Aw that's sweet. You should go on date night more often. Love the indelible buttery fingerprints...

Fragrant Liar said...

Nice! So much said, and yet more is implied in what is not said. :)

Katherine said...

Assumption is the mother of all mistakes and often ends badly.
But 'Sweet Suprise' on the other hand ...well, that's another story...as you so fortunately discovered. Lovely read Brian!

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PattiKen said...

Date night for the old married folks. So romantic!

Peter Stone said...

Beautiful, Brian, loved the details such as the butter stains, worn proudly.

My kids always laugh when I saw I want to take my wife out on a date.

Jill said...

Precious!



And, NEVER assume!

Syd said...

Nice--a date night is still important.

Nessa said...

Big smiles!

Mighty M said...

It is really hard to "assume" when you have a 14 year old in the house! :) She is good to have around for the date night though, which we are trying to do once a week.

Spandhanaa said...

So true.. life is too romantic when you blindly don't expect to get what you want.

Hilary said...

Have I mentioned before how lucky your wife is? Yes, of course I have. You're both blessed.

nohaemile said...

wow Brian!! married couples need that once in a while.. xxx

Mashuga Mom said...

fantastic post... loved it. I can see why she said yes. Popcorn prints and good snuggling..who cares what the movie was about.

Pat said...

Are you real? I mean, damn, you are so sweet and lovable. You really are a man? Seriously? Cause your wife is ONE LUCKY WOMAN. I know, I know, you're going to say that you're one lucky man. Blah, blah, blah. You're made for each other, yeah yeah.

Go get a room.

It sounds like you already did.

Snicker.

Love ya!

finallygettingtoeven.com said...

How sweet....

Birdie said...

it's important to water the flower, otherwise it could fade ... but you know that Brian ;-)

J. said...

Those nights are the best...