Tuesday, May 18, 2010

magic in the air

the night of prom is pregnant with potential, there is a certain magic in the air, that when mixed with hormonal teenagers often leads to either fairy tales or down the crooked road of broken heartedness. this one is no different.

the tie we choose, black and silvery white, accents his new black suit. he decided not to get a tux, this year, and save that for his senior year. a suit was more reasonable anyway; he can wear it to church, to look fancy as he ushers the elderly ladies down the aisle to the front row, where they can hear the music better. he likes looking fancy, because they give him compliments that make his cheeks burn from smiling so wide.

we did get him fitted for a tuxedo, just to see what it felt like, and as the twenty year old vixen that took his measurements teased him playfully, his cheeks burned as well. she stopped playing after asking him how he lost so much weight, and his reply was "well, i go to the bathroom every fifteen minutes." i tried to help him save face, but really he didn't even notice her slack jaw. he was to happy with himself.

dressed in his suit he looks handsome and he knows it, strutting like a rooster out front of the hen house, doing quick turns to flash those pearly whites. the camera likes him, and he likes it, striking poses. he is a prince and declares the dance floor will be his kingdom.

it's a quick ride, down the block, cutting through the food lion parking lot to catch a side street, to his date's house. she spent all afternoon on make up, getting her hair done and it shows. she has never been more beautiful. her dress is sleek and red, with stones glittering on the neck line. his smile is shy, in her radiance.

he really doesn't know what to do with his hands, as we take pictures, but he remembers to open the door for her to get in the back seat of the van, just like we talked about, sliding in next to her. it's quiet the five minutes it takes to get to the dance, but as they walk toward the door, i can't help but feel the that curious tingle.

for a few hours, they will swim in the same sea of dreams with 'normal' kids, not tucked into a classroom all their own and while others may not understand the garbled words they share, they understand each other quite perfectly. some may say he's 'special', i won't argue, he is. an eight year old boy in an eighteen year old body, and tonight is his fairy tale.

his mom's heart is the only one breaking, as she heads for home, missing her baby.

89 comments:

Matty said...

That one night to remember for all of time. It's priceless. This really brings back memories for me.
Sounds like they both had a memorable time themselves.

lakeviewer said...

Priceless this memory, for him, for the young lady he took. He'll never forget how this feels.

Steven Anthony said...

this will live with him forever.....beautiful night, beautiful girl.....priceless.

Brian Miller said...

he is a special kid...he's MR and to get to here took a bit of work, even practicing dancing. lol.

e said...

Beautiful, Brian, really a treasure for them and for us...

ModernMom said...

I read this one with tears in my eyes. Sounds like he got a perfect evening.

TALON said...

So beautiful, Brian, and so poignant. His Mom's heart wasn't the only one breaking...

Maha said...

never been through this before. But can't his mum understand, she was a teen too, one day.

steveroni said...

Brian, so many who read this will re-live their own experiences--I did!

And your words have that power, which made me to smile as I was reading from top to bottom...and after.

Jen said...

How exciting for him! I like that there are some schools integrating "special" students into regular classes. If it's done right, it can be a rewarding experience for all.

Monkey Man said...

Great story, Brian. "Normal" I have always said, is a cycle on a washing machine. This young man has touched me, as have you.

Caty said...

what a great story. Our transport team at works helps out with the Special Olympics and they have a prom night every year for them here. Each and every one of them touch us in different ways.

Sam Liu said...

Truly beautiful, Brian, such a wonderful and joyous memory, after nurturing for so long, it must be difficult and at the same time amazing to see one's child go off into their own life. A moving story, and a delight to read.

only a movie said...

Really great!! Another thing to make my day today... thanks, Brian.

Hilary said...

Oh Brian, this is so touching and beautiful. I can just feel his pride.. and yours.

drybottomgirl said...

This really humbled me. Too often we take for granted all the normal rights of passage. We need to be reminded that for some people these are huge rights of passage. You bring compassion to life in this tale. You made me want to cry but my bottom is too sore from an even longer bike ride tonight! Go dance with your wife, right in the kitchen, or better yet, under the stars!

TechnoBabe said...

So many people encouraging him and seeing his pride. I know the experience was a good one. Wonderful writing.

Maggie said...

A little courage and a little push is needed at times. This was very touching Brian.

Captain Dumbass said...

That's fantastic, good for him.

Kulio said...

Sweet, sweet.

kkrige said...

aww, beautiful Brian. what a special night for all.

Me said...

That made my smile wobble through a few unshed tears. What a lovely story.

The Retired One said...

fabulous tug at our heartstrings, Brian. Wonderful!

faery of the wilds said...

the feelings and emotions every parents and kids go through on this day am sure are crucial...
memorable and most probably personality shaping

rxBambi said...

I was going to make a joke about how you had me at prom and pregnant, but then you had to blow it and make me get all emotional and teary.

fabulous post (do I sound like a broken record yet?)

Jingle said...

I see three or four perspectives in this one single piece, what a talent!
To him, it is an achievement,
To the rest, it is the beginning of new life.

Quality Writing,
Heartfelt Story!

Kristine said...

Fantastic read...I enjoy your style of writing. I have peeked around your blog and will be stopping back by here soon. (c:

Bernie said...

This is beautiful, love it
........:-) Hugs

PattiKen said...

Oh, I'm so glad this didn't end the way I feared it might. I'm so glad he had his fairy tale night, and I hope it is just the first of many. "Special" indeed.

Cloudia said...

You have heart
and the talent
to share it!



Aloha from Hawaii


Comfort Spiral

LadyFi said...

So very moving.. sums up the dreams and courage of this young man.

Vicki Lane said...

So sweet-- may there be many, many more wonderful moments for him.

Katherine said...

Ok Brian...now you've done it!!! I've a lump in my throat! My heart is both elated for your son on this special occasion & is also with your wife (and yourself) whom loves this precious little man like theres no tomorrow.
I get it & I think it was STEVERONI that said that all parents will have experienced moments like this & they're forever embedded in your memory and this is very true!
I know, in a personal way, what it is like to have a child that is considered different from other children without a disability and I have never liked the term 'normal'being used as a comparison.
All children regardless of ability are beautiful & perfect!
You are revealing more of yourself with each post & each time you confirm more & more what a wonderful man you are!! Lovely Post Brian!!!!

Ronda Laveen said...

Time of your life, man! Time of your life! Love this.

She Writes said...

Brian, Is this one of the kids you work with? It has to be!

Mr. Stupid said...

This is such a wonderful memory. Very beautiful. I loved this story, Brian!:)

ds said...

Well, my heart is breaking now too, for them. Beautifully done, Brian. Special in many ways.

Congratulations on your POTW as well!

järnebrand said...

Beautiful, Brian. Beautiful. /Jo.

Zuzana said...

The sweetness and innocence of youth... and the realization that time flies too fast.;)
Lovely as always,
xo

Goofball said...

oh I remember my prom night during my exchange year in Canada. It's such an anglo-saxon ritual. I still can't understand entirely all the pooha around it but it's fun.

Lorenzo — Alchemist's Pillow said...

Very touching. After the hint at the beginning I was bracing myself for the "worst" as I got further and further along in this touching narrative. Instead I got, as usual on your blog, the "best". Beautiful ending.

sheila said...

I didn't go to my prom. lol. But I watch my kids going to these things, it is magical!

slommler said...

I see the twinkling lights, the shy smiles, the music...what a special night for the two of them. Hard for mom and uncomfortable for them.
Congrats on your POTW Brian
Well done
Hugs
SueAnn

otin said...

Sounds like a very special night for both of them. It is wonderful that they were able to experience it.

Pauline said...

hers isn't the only heart breaking - mine is, too. giving voice to these children is a wonderful way to tell a story. thanks

Lorraine said...

mmm what to say to you writer, that hasn't been said over and over again, you are amazing!

Wordwand said...

surely un unforgettable prom night and an immaculate rendering of it .well written Brian.

Tom said...

very good. sweet, too

Brian Miller said...

katherine, its actually one of the boys that i work with in therapy. he's not my son, but he is my boy.

it is pride you hear in my voice, i was rather proud of him. this is one of the perks of what i do....

deb said...

Brian,
congrats on the POTW!

and this just pierced my heart in so many ways.
You are truly a blessing to this young man, it's obvious how your heart just sings for him in the way you told this with such grace.
thank you for shining that light on my day.

Daniel said...

Very nice "papa" Brian. A better example of being a man he will not find than you.

Baino said...

Aww . . they look so sweet all dressed up with a princess on their arm. And everyone likes a dress up now and then whether they're 'special' or not. It's just normal.

Katherine said...

How lovely Brian & this is what makes you such a lovely human being! So you work in disabilities like myself?
It is very rewarding work, isn't it?

Jessie said...

you gave me goose bumps. many mothers and fathers can relate to this, maybe not all in the same way, but there is a connection.

thank you for sharing a piece of your world with us...warm smiles

Ocean Girl said...

Magical, but I'm with the Mom.

Gillian said...

you possess a beatufiul gift of writing...and I love coming here to experience it.

SuziCate said...

We have a friend whose son is 24 and MR. He grew up with our oldest son and in our scouting community. We could not have been more proud if we had been his parents as we watched him receive his Eagle Scout honor as we had helped him for so many years to achieve that goal. He also had his special prom. He now proclaims to have found the "love of my life", so sweet, a girl from his class in hs.

Valerie said...

As a mother who felt the pangs when her boy took a girl dancing.... you certainly know how to revive memories, Brian.

Six Feet Under Blog said...

A night he will remember!

Cricket said...

A beautiful memory and a beautiful post. Congratulations on the potw. I'd say more but there must be something in my eye.

buffalodick said...

I remember just being nervous most of the night...

Jen Chandler said...

Wow. That one made me cry. Beautiful story :) I'm sure he and his date had a wonderful time.

Jen

Land of shimp said...

Oh my. Well, first off congratulations on the post of the week mention over at Hilary's, Brian.

I was never the sort who cared about Proms, although I did got to two, but I forget that these things I shrug off mean the world to quite a few. I did encourage my son to go to his, and helped him pay for them, too.

I felt...oh, as if I was caving to a conventional sort of thing, encouraging him to trod the path so many had before him because it was expected. In other words, I had very mixed feelings. I want him to walk his own, individual path, and that includes supporting him and encouraging him when he wants to do these rites of passage.

Thank you for the reminder that, truly, there is beauty and dignity in those passages, at times. A kind I take for granted, are very special, indeed.

Eva Gallant said...

What a beautiful occasion, described beautifully!

Syd said...

I tried to remember if any of the special ed students were at the prom, but I can't remember. I'm glad that he went and hope that he had a good time. I know that it is unrealistic, but I wish that no one will hurt his feelings and that he will keep his upbeat attitude. People, especially kids, can be cruel. Wishing much happiness for him.

Cinner said...

It is just beautiful, took me back to my senior prom,,,many years ago.cherish the memories. take care

william said...

precious memories of days gone by beautifully scripted by the master :)

Meeko Fabulous said...

Awww . . . I never went to my prom. :( Sounds like it would have been magical though.

natalee said...

what a wonderful tribute..i hope he had the time of his life....god bless him

JStar said...

Oh Brian, this one is JUST in time...My daughter is going to the prom this friday :) Its her date's senior year...I am so NOT READY lol..She has known him since kindergarten and he is like a son to me...So my eyes WILL be filled with tears...

Grand Pooba said...

I wish this one brought back memories for me, I never went to prom.

Not sure if that is good or bad.

Jingle said...

Happy Theme Thursday!
Thank you for bringing magic to life!

blueviolet said...

A night of magic like that will never be forgotten.

Dianne said...

your writing is always so touching
it's an exceptional gift that you have

congrats on POTW

Lisa said...

I always joke that prom is an excuse to spend money on the biggest break up of your life. My senior prom was the worst ever.

:)

mama-face said...

wow. so very touching. a mom's heart is forever entwined with all of her children.

Tracy said...

That was priceless, Brian. It brought back so many memories, and it had such a bittersweet ending, but mostly sweet.

gayle said...

This is so sweet. My brother still has his proms!!!

Joanna Jenkins said...

Oh Brian, That was fantastic. I don't know how I missed this the first time around but it brought a lump in my throat. I love a kid on the Autism Spectrum and pray he one day has a night like this.

Congrats on your POTW mention from Hilary. IT's well deserved.
jj

Birdie said...

very touching Brian ... you are such a talented writer but you also have your heart at the right place ... without it, you could not write in this beautiful way ... I'm looking forward to read all the posts I missed the past two weeks!! have a great day :-)

moondustwriter said...

I thought he was - makes the moment even more magical

island of peace said...

priceless and heart warming post. they truly are special. their love is so pure and unconditional ..

Bethan said...

Owww :( gorgeous story Brian. I don't have these memories but makes me wish I had

Mighty M said...

Just wonderful!

blunoz said...

Once again, you have proven yourself a masterful story teller. The thing that impressed me most about your writing style is how you can convey such vivid images and emotions with so few words. Great job. Congrats on POTW.

Tina said...

Oh wow. I know that's my comment a lot, but you leave me at a loss for words with your work. What a special tribute to a special boy. What kind of therapist are you?

CatLadyLarew said...

This reminds me of sending Vlad off for his first prom. (I never went to one, myself, so I had to live vicariously through his... which made me the most annoying mom ever!)

Anonymous said...

Very sweet. There's something innocent and romantic about school dances. I still have fond memories of 6th grade dances.;+) The boys sweaty hands on my shoulders as we stiffly shuffled back and forth. ;+)
;+)

Starla

Deb said...

You painted the perfect picture of that special night. There is magic in the air when you write and share it with all of us. And I don't believe there is any such thing as 'normal' and we are all special. Thanks for sharing.