Saturday, May 1, 2010

giving IT

she asks for it
so i give it
to her
again and again and again...
in the kitchen
in the car
in the park
in the...

and the things
she does with it...
tying knots in it
sometimes chewing it
(oh those teeth)
though i wish
she would swallow it
instead she spits it
OUT
but i give it
to her
again and again and again

my heart,
a one night stand
diluted 'til
taste-
less-
ness

Forget for a second how free with are with giving away our bodies and think for a second about our hearts and how quick we are to give them up. And when something that really matters comes along, what have we left to give. Guard your heart.

89 comments:

Travis Erwin said...

Love it and your sentiments at the end are so true.

Katherine said...

Phew...I think my mind started off in the gutter in the first part of this! I was wondering what he was giving her!! Then I realised it was his heart you were speaking of!! (chuckles cheekily :)

Katherine said...

Woopsy Daisy....I'm thinking I should delete my last comment! Should I?

Eva Gallant said...

Some of us are just way too generous with our hearts!

Felicitas said...

I relate to this far too well.

Sh@KiR@ CK said...

Very cheeky post..
but very enjoyable.
Enjoyed that!
Have a great weekend!
hugs
shakira

Rob said...

Guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life - Prov.

willow said...

Lovely. I'm glad it wasn't the Stephen King "IT" variety.

PattiKen said...

Beautifully written, and superb advice. Your final observation is spot on. It's something teenage girls could benefit from learning. So many "fall in love" weekly, and I don't think that's exactly what the objects of their affections have in mind.

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

Brian - you are the sly king of twists and turns - leading me down dark alleys that morph into petal-covered paths!

Such sage advice.

5thsister said...

I thought you were giving the kiddo some chewing gum!

Ah, but our hearts. I have guarded mine too much in the past. I find that as I am learning to be free with it, life is so much better.

Good one, Brian.

otin said...

I think that I know where you are at with this one!

TechnoBabe said...

The key is not to give the heart away just rent it out. I have to love myself and take care of me and share my heart with hubby but not just give it away. Uh-uh.

Leslie said...

yep- we think that we will get something. when in fact, we get "used up".

Nicely done my friend.

Teri said...

Brian--I love the double entendre you used here. I love how even though you are talking about the heart all along, there is a certain "reality" to what you "might" be referring to. I think that our minds automatically go to the "dark" side (if THAT is really dark!). Anyone who's ever been in love (or not) can totally related to this.

suryagni said...

very beautiful poem. well i share your feelings about casual relationships. its just not my pot of soup, never was, never will be.

Brian Miller said...

teehee katherine...no i took it there...i wrote this one about 2 months ago and it has been collecting a little dust, as i was debating the cheekiness of it..lol.

Magpie said...

Very tricky, Brian! But then you always lead us in through the back door. Wonderfully done and I very much enjoyed your comments at the end. Yes, we're far too free with our hearts.
Have a great weekend! :)

VKT said...

This is a really great post. I was delighted to learn at the end that you were talking about guarding your heart. You really have a way with words. Well written!

slommler said...

Loved the journey you took me on with this one.
Hugs
SueAnn

Tracy said...

This is such a beautiful thought, Brian, although I gotta admit you had me sweating there for a minute. *laughs* Have a beautiful weekend.

sheri... said...

guard your heart, indeed! this is a powerful warning, brian...some of us barely able to put the peices back together since we 'gave it away'. powerful and provocative!

Tom said...

such the trickster...well, there is an endless supply of love in the world, why are some people so stingy with it?

Gillian said...

My mind was also instantly in the gutter. I turned out to be soopa surprised.

Well done!

Mrsupole said...

At first I thought you were talking about gum, but your heart makes sense. We give it and give it and give it and when it is loved it is worth giving it. Yours is loved and totally worth giving. And if you never take the chance of giving it then you never have the chance of it being loved.

You are one blessed man.

God bless.

She Writes said...

Brian,

I do believe you were playing with your readers here! Nicely played :).

LadyFi said...

The heart is indeed a fragile thing of beauty.

steveroni said...

Sound advice, oh counselor--for that IS what you are, Brian.

You do this in ways that we do not realize we've been "had" until it is too late. The messages had been delivered and received.

Monkey Man said...

I love the duality.

mama-face said...

I go from giving it and locking it up. It's tough to find that sweet spot in between.

Sam Liu said...

The perils of love, sacrificing your entire being to another, it is the greatest gift you can give, but sometimes it is placed in the wrong hands. You've beautifully captured the essence of what it is to be in love, the irony of this poem is wonderful.

Lynn said...

Golly - my mind went there, too. But I like the turn it took. You are a wise man.

Unknown Mami said...

But isn't there a fine balance? There is something beautiful in being able to give your heart freely and not being overly guarded. Sure you shouldn't just give it to anyone, but I would hate for more people to stay distant. I don't know. I guess I don't think my heart has been diluted even when I've given it to those that don't deserve it, I've learned and grown.

Syd said...

My heart has been torn and wounded but it continues to beat. The desire to live and love is still there.

Yodood said...

give, take, cheap, dear, spit, swallow — it all sounds like the soulless stock market where love is an investment instead of a way of life. Our culture is far too litigious.

SandyCarlson said...

I'm with you on that.

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

I have to say, I am not sure I agree this time Brian. Of course we need to be mindful of who and how we give our hearts at times, but I go with the belief that the more you give the more that comes back to you.

ACIM "to have all...give all to all..."

Kate Hanley said...

Beautiful poems. I really like the coffee shop one. And the title is perfect!

Daniel said...

Nice message here B. But, I would say we must not be so careful to give ourselves that we build up such a barrier/fortress around us that we are unapproachable and unreachable!

Viola said...

Very good advice Brian, one must always protect their heart. I had my mind in order. hehehehehe

william said...

I thought I was on the wrong blog to start with lol, I thought hey Brian is getting juicy lol, great post and sound advice :)

TALON said...

Really enjoyed this poem Brian. Hard not to think it's referring to sex - the teeth made me cringe :). And when you find the right person to share your heart with, it's really worth the risk, isn't it?

Baino said...

I am incapable of guarding my heart. It has a life of it's own. Generosity of heart can never be a bad thing even if we do get chewed up and spat out on occasion.

secret agent woman said...

Ah, I don't know. Life's too short to guard your heart.

liza said...

I love where your poetry leads us everytime...wherever our hearts {and minds} need at the time.

Katherine said...

Well Mr Brian....it seems that there is a cheeky little side to you too! I think all your sides are great...you are a clever man!

Just Be Real said...

Was not too sure where this one was heading..... :)

Jingle said...

Brian:

You truly make your readers think.
It is a man's perspective, when you give, you are receiving at the same time...that's what I understand.

Of course, when a relation goes sour,
blame game starts. Headaches!

A Post That Speaks of Truth,
You are risking your own reputation on it.

Have Fun on this.

Brian Miller said...

smiles. i like some heathy disagreement...i was realy thinking two fold in writing this one...first, we can only spread our heart so thin. i know people that are passionate about so many things they never really make a difference in any...the other does have to do with sex, and giving your heart away (or your body)to so many then what is left when you find the one...

hopefully you know me well enough to know i am not saying dont help a brother out...my motto is love everyone, you know...smiles.

Jingle said...

Young people certainly have little or no money, love means sleeping together.
Two years ago, an 18 year old girl
sent me an email saying "Mrs. Ji, I am sorry I missed s few homework assignments,
My boy friend has gone STEADY with me for one year, I have a miscarriage...", My heart sank. That's the first time a female student used such personal experience as excuses for not turning in homework, I allowed her to make them up as special treatments and enabled her a PASS for a college algebra course.

Females usually pay the costs...
Remove this comment if you think it
does not fit...

We can inly GUARD our own!
Thanks for the courage speaking out
facts in life...

Tracie said...

Oh, I talk all tough but I have a very hard time guarding my heart. I'm sure you figured that out already,

The Lucy and Dick Show said...

Nice comparison. Makes a person think!

Jingle said...

Brian:

I know YOU well enough not to doubt you. "I can not live without my wife," "I could not make one single day without my wife."...your WORDS in people's comment section show that U R GOOD!

Thank you for the open mind.
I shall leave the rest for other readers to interpret!

I agree with your responding comment. God Bless!

Smiles!

blueviolet said...

I have no idea what the hell you're talking about here. I admit it.

Smart Mouth Broad said...

Good advice, Brian.

♥ Boomer ♥ said...

How wonderful - not what happens to the heart sometimes - but how you stated it. So perfectly.

Jen said...

No, it's a mistake to lock up your heart. If you don't let any love out, none can come in.

J Cosmo Newbery said...

IT is the way of life and living.

Maha said...

It was FASCINATING after I got the meaning of "it" I loved...I can't really determine a certain thin. I just loved it all!

~ Tabitha ~ said...

Brilliant.

lakeviewer said...

No Way! You can't guard your heart. You must give it every time with no reservations.

It's like giving blood. We give life when we give it out; and we can make more to replace what we lost.

I've been wrong on many things, but not on this one.

Mighty M said...

Thanks for the heart to heart. :)

Anonymous said...

You are so good you are bad. Or should I say so bad you are good. Whatever, i liked this.

Jingle said...

http://jingleyanqiu.wordpress.com/2010/05/02/poetry-awards-for-week-16-thursday-poets-rally/

General love is the best,
awards for you.
Enjoy A Cute Evening!

Jingle said...

Since This Is Not PG-13,
Let me put it straight...

All girls love BAD boys,
It is very personal, I would never ask my husband for that, if he is too good or never asks me for it, then we can never have kids...
In general, a man is supposed to propose and take the leading role when it comes to love, on the case when a girl asks for it first, then the result would not be perfect...

well, that's my individual understanding.

Motto:

A smart girl marries a man who truly loves her, NOT to a man she truly admires or loves...

Enough of discussion for ME.
I do enjoy this post!
Smiles!

Nancy said...

Great twist, Brian.

The Girl From Cherry Blossom Street said...

I can understand why this is a moot subject. But I do get your drift.

You do stimulate our brain cells!

sakhii•• said...

first i could imagine her eating a chewin gum...but then it turned out meaningful!!

Eternally Distracted said...

You dragged me right back out of the gutter :0)

lordemmanuel said...

Lovely Poem with a message that I love to preach. I loved it.

Ronda Laveen said...

I was all over the road with this one. First in the gutter. Then I thought, no, he can't mean that. And then I thought maybe you were writing about throwing a ball or a bone for your favorite childhood dog. Then back in the gutter. Then in my heart...which serves our highest and best good. Great one, almost as twisty as an Otin tale but in a Brian way.

Ronda Laveen said...

I was all over the road with this one. First in the gutter. Then I thought, no, he can't mean that. And then I thought maybe you were writing about throwing a ball or a bone for your favorite childhood dog. Then back in the gutter. Then in my heart...which serves our highest and best good. Great one, almost as twisty as an Otin tale but in a Brian way.

The Crazy Baby Mama said...

oh, i like this one. your touching irony makes me come back for more

lettuce said...

a very nifty metaphor

i've heard that it doesn't actually lose its taste, but our palate gets bored with it - and that if you save it and then put it back in your mouth later, it will have its taste back

haven't tried it
and don't know what it does for your metaphor...

Selina Kingston said...

I gave it once. Never again. I vowed then never to swallow and so only spit but I think it has stopped me from experiencing true heaven.
You are as ever, truly brilliant

Lorraine said...

nobody says it like you do...pretty amazing piece, a real heart slice

Mr. Stupid said...

Nicely written Brian. Maybe, we need to keep our hearts in a safe and then forget the pin. Now, that way we don't have to be too generous with it... LOL
Beautiful post! Happy Sunday...:)

Vicki Lane said...

Wicked good!

Mrs. Teacher said...

My husband often says that falling in love is like giving someone your heart on a big silver platter and then giving them a huge, sharp knife. You know they have the ability to hurt you greatly, but you trust them not to hurt you because of your love for them.

Jill said...

OUCH! So true. It is not ALL bad.

Hilary said...

How does one not give freely?.. on the love part.. not necessarily what you first had me thinking. ;)

Marla said...

Brilliant.

Zuzana said...

Giving someone our heart and our time are the greatest gifts of all.
Lovely poem that makes our mind and imagination wander...
;)
xo

The Retired One said...

Me too...I have given it freely....I'm never the spitter. ha

järnebrand said...

With love, the more you give and the more you share, the bigger the love and the more you get love in return...
I love how you built this poem and how you saw it through. Very clever.
Peace and love/ Jo.

JML said...

You were taking us down a very random path there, sir! But I liked every bit of it.

Goofball said...

yeah what gets chewed too much gets tasteless

all of a sudden I pity the cows


ok sorry, that was not the point of your point, but that was the amazing jump my brain made

Leslie said...

I know I read this and thought I commented - well yeah

chew on that - will chase any romantic notion away

Lisa said...

I was thinking that IT was GUM!

Excellently done
although
it was not gum.

xx Lisa