Wednesday, March 10, 2010

hats

is it time
for shoulders yet?
my tired legs,
they need a rest.
this road is long
and often harried,
and sometimes i
just need carried.

Cole and I climbed the mountain today. At the steepest point he gave out and I put him on my shoulders the rest of the way. Standing on top, overlooking the city, we pointed to familiar places and talked about things important to a five year old, while tossing rocks at trees.

This simple little verse played around in my head as we walked back through the trees.

One of the most important hats I wear is being a dad. Being there for the silly conversations, the victories and losses, and sometimes being willing to carry him when the road gets steep. I learned that from someone special, my dad.

The most important thing I can do for them though is to wear another hat, and show them how much I love their mom.

I may wear a lot of hats at times, but its always good to come back to those that are most important.


For more takes on the theme, go see my friends at Theme Thursday.

Also, I am in the spotlight today over at Six Feet Under. Drop on over and see what Tess has in store for me.

120 comments:

Eva Gallant said...

I'm so glad I decided to visit you a few days ago. I love your little verses, and love that you are a good dad!

Travel & Dive Girl said...

The "hat" of a dad is by far the most special...

JStar said...

Thats hat of a dad and loving husband will speak volumes to the children. Guide them into who they SHOULD be...This is great as always Brian...

becky said...

Very nice as usual Brian!Kids are complex at a young age, but one thing for sure they observe their parents and their attitudes towards one another and to all people.They pick up everything from you as you guide them through this life.

Have a great week!~~Becky

Maha said...

You are truly awesome!!
You are a perfect dad, a perfect husband, a perfect poet and got the cutest little boy ever!!

Tina said...

Lovely post and a really special poem.

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

What thoughts on all varied hats a parent must wear. And look at that sweet face ... what a charmer! How lucky is he to have you for a Dad - AND to have a father so in love with his mother.

dusty said...

Your post is awesome Brian. Wise advice that is always good to be reminded of.
somewhere your reminder will make THE difference to a child today.
thank you

Meeko Fabulous said...

Sweet story. You're such a great dad. :)

Drahdrah said...

that is so beautiful... thanks for sharing it.

Jessie said...

you have a very lucky family. i loved the picture.

warm smiles,

Tabor said...

Very precious. You will remember these interactions fondly in decades to come.

Sh@KiR@ CK said...

Well done and you are a superb Dad and Husband!
Be blessed, Brian

hugs
shakira

Ronda Laveen said...

Seems like you've got your hats lined up just in time for the Easter Parade.

Cute pic!

lakeviewer said...

This is so touching, on so many levels. Lucky you, lucky family.

Magpie said...

Once again you've done a great job. I love that you know you need to show your children how much you love their mother. Happy TT!!

mo.stoneskin said...

Gosh you look a LOT younger than I thought.

;op

I love my dad hat.

liza said...

the best memories i have of mm and the kids are on his shoulders. i love it! that picture of your little one with the hat is the cutest and the take on this theme is so sweet. keep putting on the best hats for those boys.

Mighty M said...

Very wonderful post. I think all men should strive to show their children, especially the boys, how to treat their wives/significant others! You are doing him, and his future wife a great service! :)

Titanium said...

You wear these most important hats with Grace and Purpose. That in itself is a gift.

Madame DeFarge said...

Great post and great hat. I'm glad you're happy at wearing so many. Some people struggle to fit them all on their heads.

Cloudia said...

You are a good Dad




Aloha from Hawaii my Friend!


Comfort Spiral

only a movie said...

/What a nice snippet. Good day for a hike. ;-)

Kathy's Klothesline said...

You are right about those hats! My son loves being a dad. It was his girls that I recently had the honor of helping care for. It is the greatest thing in the world to watch my children parent. I think they are much better at it than I was.......

Prayer Girl said...

I can only hope that despite my obsessions and alcoholism as a young mother I was still able to be that "mom" that my young ones needed. I am certainly there for them now, but those first few years are so critical to normal development.

I can only hope God does in their lives what I might not have been able to provide.

I have faith that this is so. Love the thoughts that became your poem here.

PG

Mama Wheaton said...

I think Dad's are something special - keep on being that importnat part of your family's life because you can't be replaced.

clean and crazy said...

just amazing, i love this posting. i wish more dads were like you to show kids how to be when they get older. so many of us don't have the luxury of a dad.

you get the great dad award today!!

Everyday Goddess said...

ARE you clone-able!?
seriously.

william said...

cracking poem, cracking story, cracking pic, he looks soooo happy, dad and son day cant beat it :)

Susan said...

I love this piece. We all wear a variety of hats. I posted something about hats at 6 but my Theme Thursday goes up at 9. Hope to see you there!

otin said...

We never know which hat you will wear, Poet, Philosopher, romantic,Parent, or friend....Good Post!

CatLadyLarew said...

I'd say you wear the dad hat pretty well! Love it!

slommler said...

Well said...beautifully written. Great photo and I love the hat!
Hugs
SueAnn

Betsy said...

Oh, he is just adorable in that hat!

Sounds like you had a fun day. I do remember riding on my dad's shoulders...nice memories!

And you wear your hats well, Brian!

Jingle said...

Good evening,
you are speedy,
I could not get on until now...
cool post!
I will link you in the list.
cheers, ;)

TechnoBabe said...

I would have loved to had a dad go walking with me and what a treat to be carried on strong dad shoulders! Hugs to Cole!!!

Luisa Doraz said...

I would not feel like "me" without wearing one of my caps! :) Smile!

California Girl said...

sweet Brian and oh so true.

LadyCat said...

The hat that parents wear is the most important one of all. And from the big smile on Cole's face, you're doing a great job.

Pat said...

"Beautiful"!!! Brian keep wearing those "Hat's" well! :)

Suzanne said...

You always amaze me.

Tom said...

i loved those days. but man i'm tired, i need these big kids to start wearing the hat a little bit.

climbing mountains is good fun.

Tracy said...

Oh, I love that picture! Somehow I think all kinds of hats fit you nicely, Brian.

Jaime said...

Sweet post. My most important hat is being a mom. Though at the moment that one would be easier to wear if andrew ever let me get some sleep :p

Very cute pic

tera said...

Nice post. And your interview over at SFU was great! :) Happy Wednesday!

Cop Mama said...

What a nice story and cute pic!

SuziCate said...

Such a sweet post and the poem that was rolling around in your head. Yes, showing your children how much you love their mother is very important for them to see growing up..it helps them tremendously in establishing and maintaining relationships as they grow up.I think it's just important to show them how to be a good husband as well as father. My husband and I have two sons as well,but they're now in their early twenties. Cherish these innocent tender moments...kids grow up so quickly!!!!

hadassah99 said...

I'm so glad I came over to "visit". I loved your analogy about hats. The world needs more dads like you.

Corrie Howe said...

I love how you incorporated your poem with the idea of wearing different hats as a man. Thanks. I agree one of the most important is to show how your love for their mother is foundational.

She Writes said...

Nice hat!

Harnett-Hargrove said...

Oh, so very. -J

amy said...

Great post and, I enjoyed your interview. You're exactly that rare type of man I was speaking of in my blog post today. May God continue to bless your family and your journey in life!

dopey said...

I like...alot. nice hats!!

Teri said...

Brian--I am so glad to read your comment on my blog and also I came here to yours to read your writing too. You do incredible stuff. You should be so proud! The poem of your boy on your shoulders is just so visual and priceless. Enjoy those two boys. Life comes at you pretty fast and before you know it the time has gone. I also read the interview. It was good. I think that you hit the nail on the head: you have to blog because you care to share yourself with others and also you have to be true to yourself while doing it. I like what you said. You also have a tough job. I admire you. My SIL used to work at a place where adolescent boys stayed. They were all under 18 and troubled. It is a hard job working with people who have such hardships.

Rita said...

Brian you have an adorable son and he is wearing a perfect hat. If he keeps it up he will be turning heads and hearts for other hat lovers like myself.

I also wish that more fathers realize what you have learned. It all starts with showing love and respect for their mother. Then being there to advise and carry (emotionally ) all the rest of their lives.

Your are a son any parent would be proud of.

Michele Spector said...

Great poem and story. What a happy little kid, no wonder, look at his dad with all the hats! lol

Cabo said...

"we pointed to familiar places and talked about things important to a five year old, while tossing rocks at trees."

That phrase made my night. :)

Green-Eyed Momster said...

You wear the parent and husband hat so well that it should be a crown (with your royalty background). I love how much you love your family. That picture is precious! I'm proud to "know" you, Brian!~
:)

fancypants said...

Well put- children need to be shown what love looks like.

e said...

You are a truly amazing man! Love the cute photo as well!

R.S. Mallari (SpK) said...

I am wearing the same hat, unlike any other hat, being a dad is not something you can take off at the end of the day.

Great verses you have here

Jackie said...

Holy toledo you have 1 more comment! :P I read your thing on that other site. sorry I can't remember what that's called . Thanks for droppin by , I know you are pretty busy and I appreciate it. *shakes head* 61 comments !!! Wowzers! I'd like to answer your questions you asked in your 'thing' lol aka bio?

Protege said...

This was beautiful.
Having a loving parent is the most important thing in any child's life. And a dad to a boy means the world. Your poem is very sweet, yet touching - I loved it.
xo
Zuzana

ishabellemanalo said...

what a cute poem... i think, as children, we always remember the times when our dads would cuddle us, or carry us on their shoulders.... that's what children live for... i really like this poem, brian... you have captured the emotions of your son... :)

JeffScape said...

You wear children as hats???

Egad, you monster!

LadyFi said...

Wonderful words of wisdom!

Gillian said...

Aren't we priveleged to be able to swap between hats.

The fact that you stress how important it is for your kids to see how you treat your wife...I wish some other dad's would take some advice from you.

Marla said...

What a sweet little face.

anthonynorth said...

I've worn many hats, but the Dad hat is definitely the most important.
Great words, as always.

faery of the wilds said...

hats off to the Dad...

http://faeryofthewilds.blogspot.com/2010/03/theme-thursday-hats.html

Shadow said...

your little ones are lucky to have you!

souldose said...

Oh this is beautiful Brian, bookmarking you was one of my smartest moves.

Valerie said...

Thoughtfully written, hats off to you Brian.

sheila said...

Lots of hats indeed! What a sweet little one. Beautiful warm smile.

nohaemile said...

I have a cross cultures award for you dear Brian :)
http://nohaemile.wordpress.com/2010/02/17/more-happy-awards/

dustus said...

Sounds like some good quality time spent, with hats of course :) Thanks

Kim A. said...

I love your little hiking ditty! It's funny you wrote about hats cause now that spring is here I have to find a big old funny looking hat to garden in. It make my nosy neighbors wonder if I'm crazy...

I love wearing my mom hat...it's one of a kind.

♥Namaste♥

Daniel said...

Very sweet and loving words today my sage friend.

Barry said...

You got that right!

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Love it - the 'hats' we wear are so very important! :)

Alix said...

Pulling up the comment rear as usual...

Casa Hice has been battling the winter blues and is slow to visit my otherwise greatly anticipated blogs. Forgive me? The winter has just wiped out my stockpile of optimism. Then yesterday, we had sun and temps in the 70's. I feel positively revived!

Love your little verse and its muse. But mostly, Brian, I adore how you love your children and your wife. You are the perfect template for the kind of generous, loving, romantic man all us girls dream about. You ARE that knight in shining armor. So proud to be your friend.

Kulio said...

my favorite part is "throwing rocks at trees" - how much better can it get than that?? It sounds like you're there for him because you love it, and not just because it's the right thing to do. That is cool :-)

Mary said...

I love your writing and your outlook - I wish you were my neighbor

Jen Chandler said...

Wonderful, wonderful. I love your outlook on life and the many hats we all wear. What's important is the hats we wear for those we love.

I love the picture! He's a cutie.

Oh! I answered your question about the Shyamalan book after your comment on my blog :)

Jen

fiveloaf said...

touching- so touching..

buffalodick said...

My boys are grown now, with no grandkids(yet?) I feel kind of useless these days..

blueviolet said...

Nothing comes before the role of a parent. It's my favorite hat to wear too.

Jill said...

Wonderful! Wonderful!!!
The Daddy hat is such a gift. There is NOTHING so good as to have the excellent example of a fabulous Daddy. I bet you would sacrifice MUCH rather than tell your little guy you are too tired to carry him!

PRECIOUS!

Who Is Afraid of Tim Burton? Two?... said...

Hi! Brian,
Nice use of the Thursday theme...hat(s.)

Brian said,
"I may wear a lot of hats at times, but its always good to come back to those that are most important."


Once again, I think that your post is about...priorities.
Thanks, for sharing!
Happy TT
DeeDee ;-D

Rajlakshmi said...

such a sweet post... its that smile that made the post evenmore lovely and innocent...

nancy said...

Thanks Brian for stopping by my blog. I love the little poetry and that hat. Have good Theme Thursday and week. Nancy

Jingle said...

Cole is such a lucky boy,
he is a loving Dad who
enjoys nature and shares his love
with him...
Cole learns without knowing,
very delightful and playful poem!

Jingle said...

Cole has a smart smile,
Hats are funny subject,
i am glad that you jumped in
the topic and have a play with it.
Happy Happy Thursday!

congratulations on the interview
yesterday!
Keep the fire of love and creativity burning!

Captain Dumbass said...

Some days my dad hat gets pulled down over my eyes or feels so tight it gives me a headache. Still my favourite hat though.

Shoeless said...

well I'm back :D hats is good but I have to say i leaned more towards "Rain". This is still worth reading and i love coming back to read your work keep it up!!!

samanthayeh said...

I simply came by to say thank you for the kind words on my poem, but I'm so glad that it allowed me to stumble upon your site.

Reading through your various works, I felt enlightened; your writing seems to me to carry a light casual air to it, yet it never detracts from the depth of what you try to convey.

I've greatly enjoyed it. Thank you.

Gladys said...

That kid is too cute.

Nessa said...

Oh my goodness, Cole's face is squishable.

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Paul Benjamin said...

Great post, and great pic! It's nice to see parents who love their children more than anything.

willow said...

What a sweet face under that hat.

inspiredsyntax said...

I love this pic and the poem. I'm a mommy and I wear many hats daily. Thanks for the reminder that it's the little moments that mean so much!

~IS

Tracey said...

Love their mom...that is so awesome.

Ariel said...

Beautiful...

Christine H. said...

Very nice poem and a very nice face under that hat!

Baino said...

good grief you get a lot of comments! Yep, I'm used to wearing loads of hats, literally and metaphorically. . I think my single greatest achievement has been raising kids . . .alone and have the pleasure of knowing them as adults and friends. Although I feel more like a comfy old shoe more than a hat most of the time!

Jackie said...

Hi Brian. I hope you don't mind that I made a post about your 3 questions you posed to newbie bloggers . I would be honored if you took a look at it here.

advice to newbie bloggers

C.M. Jackson said...

yes you wear many hats and all of them exceedingly well --your writing is a constant joy and I look forward to each post! happy tt!

AmyLK said...

so Sweet!

The Retired One said...

Brian,
So, so true!
And you wear it well.....

secret agent woman said...

I've reached a point where my kids would have to carry me!

Otter Thomas said...

Great post! The hats of father and husband are certainly the most important and most rewarding.

gayle said...

I would love for a few dads I know to read this Wonderful post!!!

Leslie said...

That is the sweetest face. You enjoy every moment with your family.

Tamarind~ said...

Its poignant towards the end! Loved it :)

sewa mobil said...

a beautiful hat memories

JML said...

You sound like a great dad! This made me think about how ready I am for weather to go do this! It's snowing in Boise as we speak. . . .blech.

A.Decker said...

Good take. Good pic at the end, big smile under a too-big hat...like a ray of sunshine.

lettuce said...

yes, good one.
I had a good mum and daughter time yesterday making cookies - one of my best hats.

Pat said...

This is so sweet. YOU are so sweet. I love you, man! I know, I know, you're in love with your wife. Blah, blah, blah. I'm in love with my husband. Yada, yada, yada. Just saying.....

Hilary said...

This is beautiful. No doubt your chats and shoulder rides will be remembered fondly through the years.. probably by both of you.