Sunday, March 14, 2010

160 - happy now?

whatever makes you happy
their wisdom whispers
still in her ears
as she sits
amid the
debris
of
her
choices
hoping this
is not how true
happiness really
feels...



What can you say in 160 characters? (spaces included) Go see Monkey Man.

This coming weekend I will be speaking to a large group of teens in Maryland. One of my topics is our quest for happiness and how misleading it can be when we use it as the basis for our decisions....

88 comments:

Vodka Logic said...

Hmm, choices not always easy.. Good one.

TechnoBabe said...

Great topic for teens. Hope they listen and learn.

lakeviewer said...

Hey, good luck speaking to teens! Interesting topic!

Gillian said...

choices...gives us character and integrity...the right ones AND the wrong ones.

books,coffee,etc.... said...

Hi! Brian,
Hmmm...I wonder if people will ever experience "it" and if so, for how long?
Thanks, for sharing!
DeeDee ;-D

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

Lucky teens to hear your perspective on happiness. It takes such a long time to figure out that it is an inside job. Love the poem!

C.M. Jackson said...

choices and the pursuit of happiness--I am certain your talk will motivate and engage your audience!

Kat_RN said...

Good luck with the teens. Sometimes it is not just a matter of the pursuit of happiness, but of being willing to wait for it.
Kat

Susan said...

This was certainly an interesting topic. I would love to hear how receptive the teens are to hearing it. Very nice piece.

Sh@KiR@ CK said...

Excellent 160, Brian!

Teaching and coaching teenagers are so rewarding.

Stay blessed.

Have a great week!

hugs
shakira

powdergirl said...

I don't remember ever thinking about the long term results of the choices I made as a teen. I don't remember being told I needed to consider that either.

Good work, Brian, nice one.

CatLadyLarew said...

I love this one, Brian. Well done! Makes me think about the choices I've made.

She Writes said...

Hmmm, this is a tricky subject as happiness must be considered in life. Good luck!

Liza said...

Smells like teen spirit!
Would love to be a fly on the wall for that chat.
Digging your 160.

Magpie said...

I love this one...
"debris of her choices..."
Fantastic!

Green-Eyed Momster said...

This one speaks to my heart, Brian. They are so lucky to have you as their roll model.

Smiles!

evalinn said...

Interesting. How did it go?

Mama Wheaton said...

Hope the teens pay attention!

Enchanted Oak said...

The 160 is a very good poem, Brian. To my way of thinking, happiness is an emotion that comes and goes, while fulfillment is a steady state of mind that comes from doing the right constructive actions on a daily basis.

Anya said...

Hey Brain
Wonderful 160 post :-)
Really good ....

Matty said...

Whereabouts in MD will you be?

Tom said...

oh how true! there's a fine line; good luck with your chat...you must be very brave to talk to a whole mob of teenagers!

Betsy said...

I'm sure you'll have some wise words for them, Brian! Hope they listen and remember what you share with them!

Wings said...

Nice, wish I could make everyone read it. :)

Christina said...

Wow! I can totally relate this to my own rebellious years.

gayle said...

Would love to hear you speak!! Choices sometimes have to be made for others happiness not our own!

william said...

we all have to make choices, excellent post Brian :)

Jingle said...

doing what she or he likes it what makes one happy!
happy topic!
awesome writing!

Jingle said...

yes, we make decisions all the time,
at times,
making a choice is a matter of critical thinking!
you are very intelligent thinker!

cool Sunday 160

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Bernie said...

I would love to hear how you speak to these kids.....happiness comes from within not without....:-) Hugs

Eva Gallant said...

Ah...the debris left by our choices. I like that.

Cop Mama said...

Wonderful poem. It would be interesting to hear your speech. I too enjoy mentoring adolescents regarding their future and choices they make. Now if they would only listen!!! :-)

Madame DeFarge said...

Sadly too true for many of us. The consequences of chocies can be very unpalatable indeed.

Maha said...

That's an interesting job. i'd like to see you lecturing in there. Loved the poem.

only a movie said...

Hope the presentation went well. Cool topic and I hope you can blog about how it went. :-)

Brian Miller said...

yeah, i lok forward to it...i have three different talks on Friday, this is my opener. powdergirl hit it on the head. i will share my journey as well as i never really heard it either...

Kim A. said...

Happiness, for me, is a feeling, while serenity is a state of mind and a choice. I hope whoever needs to hear you hears you..what an awesome thing to do.

♥namaste♥

Monkey Man said...

Would love to be a fly on the wall for your talk. So sorry my 'powers' didn't draw you in. Not even a little itch? Great 160 and thanks for your consistent participation.

Katherine said...

Everything we do in life begins with choice. I believe that speaking to teens about this topic is a great thing to be doing Brian.

Educating our youth on the weight of choices, both right & wrong, is so valuable. Fantastic stuff!

Ronda Laveen said...

Those teens will really resonate with you, I just know it.

The Retired One said...

They were truly wise in picking YOU to speak to them Brian..you have been there and will speak truth to them.

The hardest thing about youth is being patient for getting things you want....
but the rewards are SO worth it.

R. Burnett Baker said...

"Happy Now?" resonates with me, as you've put into words my rhetorical thoughts about someone who recently meant so much to me!

Wonderful poem, Brian!

Harnett-Hargrove said...

That is a very interesting and well-thought choice to speak to teens about! -J
Oh, and nice 160.

Daniel said...

Powerful words here. I know first hand of the cost of getting exactly what you asked for, pleaded for, begged for, only to find out it was not what was right for me. Sometimes I feel like God allows this so that he can teach me that his timing is not my timing, that his best for me is not what I would choose. Although I am getting old, I am still continually learning.

LadyCat said...

Choices are never easy. I think they would be impossible if we fully realized their impact on our lives.

Felicitas said...

Another powerful 160, Brian! If only we really did listen more closely to our inner geniuses, there'd be far less debris, I'm sure.

Kulio said...

oh, you said so much there!

Ms Hen said...

good one.

I just wanted to say Hi. Hope all is wel with you and your love ones..

(hugs)

Joanna Jenkins said...

That is one lucky group of teens. If you speak half as well as you write they'll be totally inspired!

Great 160.

Have a great week.
jj

Unknown Mami said...

Huh...happiness is not always about instant gratification.

Vince Farrell said...

yes, the big 34 on the 3rd....it was fun. thanks!

Jannie Funster said...

Oh, I just love the debris of her choices. Exquisite!

And...

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Eternally Distracted said...

Fab that you are talking to the teens... hope it all goes well. Great topic, great post... but I always say that!!

Jingle said...

Good luck on your coming 3 talks
and on the preparation of them...
hope that you make it fun, memorable, and easy!
Happy Monday!

sheila said...

Beautiful! And good luck with your teen discussion this week!

Chhaya said...

so true. sometimes our best intentions ruin our lives. in worst case, the lives of those we care about.

ishabellemanalo said...

weow... i would love to be there when you give your talk to young adults... :) too bad.. :) great post, by the way... *wink*

Goofball said...

I don't think basing decisions on your quest for happiness is wrong


but most of the time it's our definition of happiness that is wrong, and consequently our choices.

Yousei Hime said...

Thank you for your visit to my site. I am joyfully contemplating the next poetic rabbit tale while gazing at my new banner. I really love this poem, except for one thing--it reminded me that I have to tell my husband about buying an iphone for myself. Thanks for sharing this.

Brian Miller said...

goofball...i hear you. and i am definitely not saying happiness is not worth working toward, just that when we make decisions based only on our immediate happiness it can have disasterous affects on our long term life...an example being a teen that trades the excitement of sex for ten pregnancy and what that does to othr goals he/she might have...

Jessie said...

thought provoking ... i wonder though, is true happiness bits and pieces of the total whole (the experience at the time) -- or is it at the end (of one's life), making it the total whole?

Mama Zen said...

This is excellent. One of my favorites, I think.

Six Feet Under Blog said...

Would love to hear that speech. I have a teen and you worry so much what they go through these days!

Adam said...

Nice. Great off-beat flow at the end :)

Little Ms Blogger said...

I was about to comment chasing happiness is okay if you can live with the decisions you make to obtain it.

After reading your goofball comment, I realize this is much harder a concept to talk to teens about. It is only as you get older do you realize that every action has a consequence and, many times, parents eliminate the consequence so a teen doesn't have to experience it.

Good luck.

Grand Pooba said...

You must post your speech here so we can read it!

♥ Braja said...

Hey, I've given that very talk several times .... we should compare notes :)

The Muse said...

I am really intrigued about you speaking to children/teens in MD. And I certainly hope that you will be able to reach out to them.
What a marvelous thing to do.

Jen Chandler said...

An amazing topic! More kids need to hear it. Heck, most adults need to hear it! I do hope it goes well :)

Tamarind~ said...

I'm sure, you'll make them feel the way i feel when i read you! Good time!

Alice Audrey said...

So often "whatever makes you happy" is not a blessing.

järnebrand said...

I loved the shape of this.
"Whatever makes you happy" is not always the best advice to give, maybe. Because what makes someone happy today might not be the best choice for tomorrow. Somtimes maybe you need to give better advice than that, you know, offer more guidance than just saying "whatever makes you happy"... Thought provoking, Brian, again. Well done. /Jo.

AmyLK said...

Good luck speaking with the Teens. Love the 160!

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

WOW,good topic. I listened to a speaker when I was a teen. I'm not sure I really understood what he was truly saying until MUCH later in life, but the truth is, some of his words saved my life over and over.

You never know what kind of affect you can have on someone else, I hope mine continue to be loving and kind from now on.

Tracy said...

The kids who hear you speak are very lucky, I think. I love the "debris of choices" line. Sometimes it takes a long time to be certain if we made the right ones.

Iddy Albatross said...

I've been reading your 160s for a long time, and I've always wondered if I could ever write one myself. Turns out, I could :D You keep inspiring me, man!

otin said...

Sometimes you just gotta follow your heart! :)

Mighty M said...

Hope your speech goes very well! Like many others, I loved the "...sits amid the debris of her choices..." line!

purplesplatitudes said...

Very powerful short!! Interesting challenge too.

CrbianFool said...

That is some really cool wordplay. It never fails to amaze me when I consider the gravity of emotion invoked in a well written poem. This poem packs quite a punch thanks to your word-choice and tempo. Well done sir!

crb.

C said...

hahahahahahahahhaha! For some reason, this makes me laugh!!!! I wonder why....hahahahaha! :D

JStar said...

Oh Brian, you have NO idea how much this spoke to me...For years and decades I sat in the debris of my choices searching for true happiness and what that felt like...Until I started making better choices...

Where in Maryland are you speaking??? I would love to go to that and bring my two teens :)!!!

Goofball said...

Hi Brian, just saw that you responded to my comment. I think our thoughts are aligned, but we phrase them differently.

Immediate excitement (eg sex) / kicks / prestige / acceptance by the wrong sort of people/ money...aren't going to give us the foundation of true long-term happiness but we often make the mistake thinking it will.

I believe happiness can be found in small things, in contentment & acceptance, in sincere social interaction, but it takes some maturity to realise that.

Good luck with your presentations on Friday. I'm sure it'll be very interesting!

LadyFi said...

The debris of our choices... I love that! A warning as well as wisdom.

Hilary said...

Good luck on your chat with teens. Short term happiness is so difficult to look beyond at that age. Good for you for helping them to see the bigger, happier picture.

Nessa said...

we should never be punished by getting what we ask for.

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secret agent woman said...

I was talking about this very topic with my son yesterday.