Friday, February 5, 2010

simple things

when i was younger
i wanted elaborate things
giant houses with endless rooms,
fast cars and bling
so i worked, worked, worked
chasing the American dream
from airport to airport
missing the first year
of my son's life, barely
dating my wife...

oh what a life...

sitting here, now
in the soothing shadow
of the grape arbor,
sipping black coffee out of
a brown barrel mug
(that cost a quarter
at a yard sale)
watching my boys
throw snow balls
at my wife...

a simpler life...

guess i better
put down this notebook and
go defend her honor.


Enchanted Oak is doing a Simple Things Challenge on Saturday. Post about simple things you cherish, link up and for each post or comment on her blog $2 will be donated to a medical clinic in Haiti. Perhaps it will help provide a few simple things.

119 comments:

e said...

Beatiful sentiments and you are so right. Thanks for the information about Enchanted Oak, too.

Pastor Sharon said...

Brian, isn't it lovely when we discover the simpler things bring the most gratification to life? I love this.

Mrsupole said...

I think when one is young it might be good to have a certain amount of ambition, but too much to where you do not enjoy family and friends on a daily basis is detrimental to one's health. When they do studies on the happiest people in the world, it almost overwhelmingly is those people who have the least amount of "things" but are rich in family and friends.

We here are blessed that you have discovered this at a fairly young age and we benefit with the stories you write about your enjoyment and love for your wife and family. No amount of things will ever be able to replace the love that you are giving them during this time of their life.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if all children had the joy of having a father such as you. Keep on keeping with what you do.

How is your mom doing? Is she almost healed, it seems like the time is almost there. I will send more prayers her way.

And I am now off to visit Enchanted Oak, I want to do my share to help.

God bless.

Hilary said...

Priorities sure do change over time. Good thing, eh?

Respectfully Yours said...

Simple things are so easy...compared to the rush of staying up with the world.

Susan said...

The simple pleasures are best. Obviously, however, it is the people you are with who create the happiness. Great piece Brian.

Enchanted Oak said...

I love your tale of salvation. Your love for your sons, your wife, your life shines through. Thank you for posting this. It brought a smile to me.

An Open Heart said...

Look at you, sharing with us some simple things.

Have a glorious weekend.


S

gayle said...

The best times I have had in my life were simple!!

Bernie said...

I have been blessed with many things in my life but that is just what they are... things.....either a big home, a fancy car or wearing diamonds.....love, family and companionship are far better than any of it...:-) Hugs

Ocean Girl said...

Only after you've gone through the complicated things will you learn to enjoy the simple things in life. That is just how it is.

C.M. Jackson said...

wise man and always a wonderful post-c

Kathleen said...

Love this, Brian. I remember exactly the moment when I thought to myself: What the heck am I doing on this corporate ladder. None of that stuff matters to me. What a grand revelation! I'm much happier.

Hope you successfully defended your lovely wife's honor!

Devika said...

You realised it pretty early i guess...In India, the realisation come by around 70 years of age (the age men normally have their "wisdom" teeth out)---

May be because Americans have the resources to realise their dreams ealry unlike Indians, especially the older generation who worked hard to make both ends meet!

The new gen Indians -- make it to US/UK...the parents suffer as the young realise ther dreams,

Anyway, finally most realise it's in simple things that the beauty of life lies,

Good poem Brian :)

wishes,
devika

Gerardine Baugh said...

A slower pace, adds happiness to our lives. This is a beautiful poem.

"sitting here, now
in the soothing shadow
of the grape arbor,
sipping black coffee out of
a brown barrel mug"

That sounds wonderful!

Gerardine

Ronda Laveen said...

Simple is as simple does...my momma used to say. Hope you rescued your fair maiden from the young rapscallions (sp?).

Matthew said...

I'm with everyone else. Simple concepts, beautiful sentiment and exquisitely told.

lettuce said...

one of the biggest lessons i reckon. sounds as though you've got it down.

:o)


thanks for the link info., what a great idea.

Vodka Logic said...

lovely, how did you do defending her honor.

Eternally Distracted said...

fabulous post - the simplest things in life are most definitely the most precious... Hope you kicked some snowballin' ass ;)

Maggie May said...

Somehow or other, I always end up being satisfied with less, too.
The simple things are the things that count.

Nuts in May

slommler said...

Yes! Hurry! She needs all your help! Lovely post! How much snow did you end up "eating"?
Hugs
SueAnn

Sam!! said...

So true.. well said Brian :))

Take care

Smart Mouth Broad said...

What a lovely tribute to your family and the simple life.

CottageGirl said...

The riches many people are looking for are right in their backyards! You are a rich man, Brian!
Great post!

William Manson © 2010 said...

yes we can get caught up on the me me me syndrome but u noticed and came back to reality, nice post..

Marinela said...

Great work Brian :)I loved it really
Thanks for sharing

yorksnbeans said...

I think the older we get we begin to understand what really matters.

She Writes said...

Brian, I liked this post. I also, appreciate the way you write about your wife. Please give her a hug from blogland!

5thsister said...

such sweet sentiments. lovely post, simply lovely!

Barry said...

Glad to see you joining in. I bet it was fun.

Protege said...

Beautiful. As we get older we realize that the things that matter are simple pleasures.
Enjoy the snow.
xo
Zuzana

Jaime said...

great post. it's the small simple things that usually matter most.

so who won the snowball fight?

Brian Miller said...

think we have somewhere around 10 inches total snow for the weekend at this point. have defended though cole put up quite the fight in our snow battle yesterday. we retired for some chocolate snow cream...and most everyone was out at an early hour last night...

only a movie said...

Have fun!

Wings said...

Simply sweet, but quite profound, in meaning and in reason. :)

ShAKirA CHOONG said...

The best times in our lives are so simple yet enriching.
I am so happy for you.
hugs
shakira

jingle said...

I share the same dream with U,
I am sure many do,
very personal life milestone,
Glad that we all are settled and feel secure after years of efforts, hard work, and ...

Your wife is cool, ;)

jingle said...

Cheer up, Snow shall never spoil your fun,
I am clear of snow today,
they are done like wind...

Me giggling,
U frowning,
Time for an exchange,
M worrying,
U smiling..

Her Majesty Lisa (LadyWanderlust) said...

I truly respect how much you love your wife and your family. As a divorced woman it is so easy to be bitter and assume they are all asses. But, alas, all the good ones are married and in Austin, gay! Sigh.

I, too, have to be careful about remembering the simple things. I am a workaholic. Not for the money, but for chance to help students. But I cannot forget my first priority...my own children who need me.

Thanks for making me think and introspect. Hugs, Lisa

Alix said...

Like my NetFlix queue, this post I send directly to the top spot.

LOVE it. Love the way you think. Love how you reversed the sacrifices and are actively there in the center of your life. Where you want and deserve to be.

Love that you are the defender of your wife's honor, no matter what.

You are a neat guy.

järnebrand said...

I loved that one! Wonderful post! :)

Felicitas said...

Time to appreciate what really matters - the best gift of all and truly invaluable!

I will go visit Enchanted Oat tout suite!

Ms Hen said...

This is another one that I ADORE.. this is WONDERFUL.

I love a simple lifestyle.

I got a beautiful crochet blanket in a church sale.. used but clean.. and lovely. I got some table clothes and a couple of more blanket this year too.. when they had another used sale.

A simple lifestyle is more relaxing..

Enjoy your family... :)

Valerie said...

This has such meaning, Brian. Life certainly changes as we move along. Have a great weekend.

CatLadyLarew said...

Oh, you've put a lot of wisdom into a few words. Enjoy defending your lovely wife's honor!

Mr. Stupid said...

Wow. You are really talented. Nicely written.
BTW, I wouldn't want to live in a big house either. There is always the threat of ghosts and aliens...lol
Off to visit Enchanted Oak.

Have a great weekend...:)

Who Is Tim Burton? said...

Hi! Brian,
After I read your post only one word came to my mind...priorities...
...What is important and What is more important.
Thanks, for sharing!
DeeDee ;-D

Yaya said...

It's true. The more people work the richer they are in money. But they poorer they are in love.

ArtSnark said...

what fun!

tori said...

lots of pondering on this one this morning.

The girl with the flour in her hair said...

Like usual, this is perfect. I love it.
(So, who won the snowball fight?)

-Brian said...

DUDE BRIAN! Where did you get such a following?!? 52 COMMENTS?! Amazing! Ive been noticing this poetic/song side very nice! Hope you are well!

Little Ms Blogger said...

I'm amazed at the difference I've noticed in myself when looking for jobs.

Over a decade ago, I was hungry for the chase and willing to give up most everything to climb the corporate ladder, but now. Never. Peace of mind, quality of life so much better.

Magpie said...

Yes, the best things in life are simple, uncomplicated and spontaneous!!

Daniel said...

You seem to have figured out what matters most while you still had time to live it. God really has blessed you my friend.

Sassy Chica said...

Wow, what an amzing post!!! Chasing the american dream can be a pitfall...so happy for those who find it...however I don't know of anyone yet who has not had to pay a hefty price and then holding on to it was a whole other game!

New Follower,
Sassy Chica

otin said...

I might be able to come up with something by tomorrow! We will see how creative that I am feeling.

Just Be Real said...

Hey Brian, I also saw you promoting this worthy cause! Amen! Blessings to you dear one!

TechnoBabe said...

Brian, great description of really seeing what you decide is important in your life. Your wife and boys and your time together. Smart man.

William Manson © 2010 said...

congratulations : I have given YOU the SUNSHINE AWARD :) please come to my blog to collect it :)

Mama Zen said...

I truly love this one, Brian!

Tom said...

sounds like you've got life all figured out. Of course when they get older and start spending your money faster you might rethink things a bit.

Her Majesty Lisa (LadyWanderlust) said...

Oh, BTW, I have a little surprise for you on my blog today. Stop on by and see what it is. :) Hugs, Lisa

http://worldaccording2lisa.blogspot.com/2010/02/blowing-sunshine-rainbows-out-my-ass-so.html

sarah said...

awesome post. simpler is better.

LadyFi said...

Lovely lovely... simple pleasures really do enrich our lives. And hopefully, indirectly, make the lives of a few in Haiti better.

I've also done a list - up here: http://ladyfi.wordpress.com/2010/02/06/its-the-simple-things/

Gillian said...

I love the picture of you sitting watching your chidren and wife playing snowball fights.

sheila said...

Yup, love don't cost a thang baby!

Madame DeFarge said...

Wonderful feelings expressed in this, ones we should all share.

gaelikaa said...

Beautifully expressed. I loved it..

Jen said...

As we get older, we figure out what's really important. Work to live...don't live to work.

RNSANE said...

Brian, I am truly honored that, with so many followers, you actually found time to stop by and comment on the blog of an ancient, 65-year-old!

I loved your "simple things" - it is sad that, when our children are young, we often miss so much of their growing up. I raised three sons, virtually alone - my last two, born when I was 38 & 40, I feel like I rarely saw. Their father took off after I had extensive back surgery and was disabled for a year and a half. Fortunately, I was able to find work as a forensic nurse doing child and adult sexual abuse cases but it necessitated my being on call 24/7 and there were times I was at the hospital 24 hours straight. Without any child support, though, that's how we survived.

I guess I did something right. My 39, 27 and 25-year-old sons are all a mother could want!

California Girl said...

Brian this is lovely and true. You've learned earlier in life than many of us.

Baino said...

Ah the simple life . . it's the way to go. Although I've never been one for toys or status symbols a fashionista or collector of 'things'.

blueviolet said...

When you have the idyllic life, yes, jump in there and enjoy it! :)

Lou said...

You captured the essence of this idea..as always. You seem like a really nice guy, Brian.

Anya said...

LOVELY written Brain :-)
You are a great writter ...
Simple things are the best ;)

(@^.^@)

jaymiethorne said...

This screams of the beauty of cherishing life.

Nessa said...

Wonderful. Sounds like a perfect life and put so poetically.

A Boy and His Toy

Rain said...

That's great Brian! I too wanted everything money could buy and I worked until my body gave up. Now I have more sense and see life for what it really is. I would be very happy with a little old shack in the woods! :) Defense! Defense!!!!

~ Tabitha ~ said...

HA.I hope you have fun in the snow with your family Brian :)

Duck! I just threw a snowball at you..try hitting me back..I've got my lasanga back on now..lol

McGillicutty said...

yay you... get off the plane and love your family.. that's where it's at Dude.

Maggie said...

Very awesome Brian!

tera said...

Love it! What a nice picture you can paint with words :)

Hope said...

I loved this - funny how our perspective changes - and how grateful I am to have the time given to gain a different one, too.
Thanks for visiting my blog today.

secret agent woman said...

I guess one benefit of having children older is that I was already ready to slow down and enjoy the simpler things. I didn't have the luxury of being with them full-time, but I was at least able to work only part-time during their young years and really enjoy them.

Betsy said...

Lovely.

Pat said...

You are lucky to discover this so young in life. Usually people are a LOT older and have many regrets for living their life differently. I'm glad you changed yours to a more "simpler" life and can enjoy life's simple pleasures - like a snowball fight with your family. smile.

Cabo said...

I liked that very much. Very much. :)

Matty said...

Absolutely excellent. You have priorities in order and things in perspective.

Brenda Susan said...

Beautiful & wonderful post!

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

Simply put and beautifully said.

Enchanted Oak said...

It was nice seeing you browsing around today as I toured the people who got on board with the Simple Things idea. I felt like I saw a friend in passing, just outside the window, and he was gone before I could shout out, "Brian! So great to see you!"
You must know by now that you have a gift which is rare in the writing world. There is a knack in your style that sends out ripples among your readers. What you say, and how you say it, gives your readers just enough information that their hearts lower walls and you are allowed in for a moment.
This fact, of being allowed into the consciousness of your reader, is a precious gift. Most writing just flies by the eyes, never engaging the deep heart of anyone. Your knack stops people in their tracks, and they suddenly hear you, and they let you in.
I don't know crap about a lot of stuff, but I know writing, and you often hit a mark with very words. A very nice present from your Creator, Brian... A talent that gets better with use, but one that can't really be learned. You're born with the gift like a man is born with good hands for playing the piano or lobbing a ball.
There. My sermon is finished. Cheers from Chris

Peter Stone said...

Ah, the wonders of gaining perspective, coming to appreciate that the simple things in life really are priceless, like the snowballs :)

Marla said...

Brian ~ Your writing is filled with so much wisdom. Beautiful...

Unknown Mami said...

Today I had very similar thoughts and I realized that I am happy.

Sally said...

You certainly have a new fan here - (Hi!!) x)

Mrsupole said...

Hi Brian,

I have joined the challenge and posted my list of simple things. I hope that everyone else joins in too. Thanks for letting us know about this.

God bless.

Sande said...

Defend her honor? Yes. Well done. Just won big brownie points with me.

jingle said...

100th, 100% perfect...

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an award 4 u, ;)

Dave King said...

I very much go for the simplicity and directness of the poem. Also the unexpected ending. I shall return at a later date and read it again. Fine post.

Madison said...

I can think of several people to send this to..busy, busy, busy, too busy to live.

the walking man said...

Well spoken Brian.

Tracie said...

I totally agree with the message of this one, Brian. Thank goodness our priorities shifted. Well done. (As usual.)

Barbara said...

We all need to take time to look around us and discover what makes us most happy.
It IS a conumdrum: one has to work to get ahead for our family and yet we miss so much. How to balance?

Thom said...

Brian you are a true gift I tell you. This is just so inspiring for the Simple Things. Your wife and your kids are so lucky to have you. You point out the simple things very well my friend. Excellent :) Have a great Sunday

♥ Boomer ♥ said...

I can feel this, Brian. So beautifully stated. The miracle of sudden sight.

quilly said...

I love the images and lesson of this poem. Cats in the Cradle with a much wiser ending.

Dianne said...

I cannot read all of the many followers' comments, but I love this piece, now my 3 boys are teenagers, I have been told I need to spend just as much time communicating with them as I did physically caring for them the 1st 3 years. But I'm working more instead of less. This economy sucks.

I'd better get back to cooking a wholesome dinner and paying the bills....

Ha! have a great week. Thanks for visiting. Check out this link called "an ordinary day", and grab the tissues...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olSyCLJU3O0


Dianne

The Retired One said...

I am behind in reading blogposts because I was at the Mayo Clinic helping a friend to go through her radiation and chemotherapy sessions. I know you have already gotten 109 comments, and mine will just be one more, but I had to write one...because you are SO WISE in your decision to make family your priority and that you have discovered this while you are still young.
It took me a while to "get that"...
much older than you when I did.
No one at work will remember you humping away your life...
but your family will treasure every memory and every moment you took with them.
Thank you Brian for writing this and perhaps waking up others to this crucial wisdom.

swapnap said...

Aah! well said Brian. Am sure life has more lustre when you want less...lucky you have it in yours.

Birdie said...

The simplest it gets, the better ;-) I enjoyed reading your posts and I will be back :-) Have a beautiful day!

Melli said...

I absolutely LOVE this poem! Life after Bling is ever so much more fun!!!

kcinnova said...

Beautiful!

And thank you for taking the time to stop by my blog and comment as well.

Have a blessed day!

Goofball said...

the end made me laugh :D

Scott said...

nicely simple :-)

Candie Bracci said...

Smiling,wonderful.You have a wa of describing scenes,it's like we are transported!

Meeko Fabulous said...

this was lovely. it really helps to put things into perspective. :)

Mmm said...

So well put and how true indeed.