Sunday, January 3, 2010

Wet shave

Blue jean and flannel smiles sit on the low brick wall framing the sidewalk, a howdy and hey ya'll handy for the next person that graces the doorstep. Tendrils of smoke ring the candy cane sign in a blue haze, shrouding what is beyond the door in mystery.

Jingle jangle, chipped gold bells hanging on the door, tied up in last years Christmas ribbon announce our presence to the cabal within. Pure essence of man pushes across our pores in a warm wave, a blend of hair tonic and blue liquid from the jar they float the combs in to keep them sterile.

This is where boys become men, in a maroon leather swivel chair.

Stories pass down across the ages, world politics are solved as a straight razors lick the stubble from your chin. Men talk man talk, unashamed, as clumps of hair mingle on the yellow green flecked linoleum around the base of the chair, gathering sins confessed, until Richard limps across the room on the artificial leg that carried him back from Nam' and sweeps them up, like grace.

Mr. Brown was the first man to cut my hair. He also was the first to cut my sons, dressed in a blue shirt, reminiscent of something out of a medical ward. His scissors fall into an easy rhythm lulling you to sleep, taking all your burdens with a dollop of warm shave cream slathering across your face.

These days, I cut my own hair with clippers and a mirror. Mostly I do alright. On days I don't I just shave it all down to soft prickly stubble. Its just hair, it will grow back. Sometimes as I run my fingers across my freshly shorn head, I wish all mistakes could be fixed as easy, sacrificing a little vanity on the bathroom floor, swept away and deposited in a trash can.

Every once in a while, I like to revisit the barber, putting my life in their hands as they massage my neck with the shave cream, then stretch it with their sure fingers and run the sharp edge across my throat. There is nothing like that feeling after a wet shave, it makes you a new man.

And as I watch Richard sweep the hair in the red metal dust pan, it reminds me of the grace I sometimes forget to give myself.

75 comments:

UberGrumpy said...

Great post. Respect.

I cut my own hair too, although Mrs G does the back. Or so she says.

Chief said...

theres nothing like a good hair cut. (this coming from a pro stylist tee hee)

seriously, it's therapeutic dude!

G-Man said...

I loved going to the barber!
He had all kinds of 'naughty' mens magazines like True, and Argosy, and Police Gazette!!

e said...

I cut my own hair once, back in the day...it was a disaster! What got me about this was your very last line about the grace you forget to give yourself.

This reminded me of the intention behind actions and how that can effect the way the most mundane things are done. Almost everything can be done with grace, if you think about it.

Have a good week and best to your mom and family, Brian.

Fragrant Liar said...

Nicely done!

I love this snippet especially:
"Sometimes as I run my fingers across my freshly shorn head, I wish all mistakes could be fixed as easy, sacrificing a little vanity on the bathroom floor, swept away and deposited in a trash can."

I'll say it again. Nicely done.

Happy new year!

The Things We Carried said...

Brian,

I wish we could so easily remove the mistakes we made. You see the world through such gracious eyes. Do give yourself some of the same! Happy 2010!

Lizzie said...

What a fantastic post, Brian. I especially liked your very last line about forgetting to give yourself grace sometimes. I believe we all tend to be like that and can learn from this. HNY! :)

Beth said...

So, do you smell like a boy dog when you leave? That was what my oldest son used to say after a trip to the barber.

Green-Eyed Momster said...

Nice Brian!
I especially like this part:
"Sometimes as I run my fingers across my freshly shorn head, I wish all mistakes could be fixed as easy, sacrificing a little vanity on the bathroom floor, swept away and deposited in a trash can."
I cut my own hair although now that I'm working again, I might have a professional cut it again.
It would be nice if problems could be swept away and deposited in the trash can!
Smiles!

Yaya said...

What a great memory.

Kim A. said...

I remember taking my oldest son for his first haircut at the barbershop. I felt out of place and hovered over him to keep him distracted. I still have a lock of his hair. It truly is a man's world. Good memories!

Namaste

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

A good image and motto to remember: 'just sweep it away'.

Skip Simpson said...

Brian... only you could find poetry in something as mundane as going to the barbershop! Nicely done!

otin said...

It has been so many years since I went to a barber shop. I almost forgot what they look like inside!

Barb said...

Nice post, Brian. My first baby, who is now 13, decided to start shaving after Aunt Bambi teased him about his peach-fuzzy mustache. I can't believe my baby is becoming a man! I hope he and I both survive the transition. Peace.

lakeviewer said...

What a great sense of ritual here.
Love that last line.

blueviolet said...

My brothers have very distinct memories of their visits to the barber shop as well. There is only one like that in the area now but it's just the same.

Hater Von G said...

Id like to say how I love this post... Unfortunatly, I got my hair cut short in the 9th grade, and my dad told me I looked like Hilary Clinton. It's just not the same for women sometimes. ha-ha.

Ronda Laveen said...

There is grace in the unhearlded tasks. Hair does grow back quickly. An oops now and then is not important.

Monkey Man said...

Haven't been to a barber in a decade. Like you - clippers and feel with the occassional look in the mirror. Might have to get back the the barber shop one day.

willow said...

Our little town has one of those great old barber shops, with the original striped cylinder sign. I used to cut all my guys' hair, once upon a time.

Cabo said...

I'll not let Mom read this. It could strain our family ties... ;)

Loved it.

Cabo said...

Oh, btw... Was great seeing you over the holidays... and yes, I could tell you cut your own hair.

Ha! Just kidding...

maybe

Chef Kar said...

The barber does seem to be a rite of passage for a young boy. Mine were both happy when I took them ~ it meant no ear snipping bowl cuts from their well meaning dad.

As always, I'm amazed at how you pull me in with your words, making the barbershop a tear-jerking memory. You do it every time. True genius.

Happy New Year,

Karis

An Open Heart said...

Wow....always, Wow. You my friend, lay grace before us everytime you write.


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JML said...

Wonderful visual. I seriously love how you did this!

Kathleen said...

Love it, Brian. I took my boys to DIck's Sports Barber for years. I always felt little out of place owing to the "pure essence of man pushing across pores." And I loved it fort the very same reason. My eldest son and his best friend got wet shaves before senior prom since their dates were primping so much. I thought that was pretty dang cool!

Nancy said...

Nice ending, Brian. The grace you forget to give yourself...

Boys become men in those chairs - and I remember my brothers crying for the first time. :-)

Dianne said...

Dang, you have a lot of followers, dude,

(thanks for the complement on my still lame sunday 160, anyway)

I wish I could capture the feeling watching my sons get their haircut, by the cute gals, and look at themselves in the mirrror at the developing teenage persona.
There I did it....smiles

Unknown Mami said...

Barbers are an endangered species.

Alix said...

Um, ever see the movie Sweeney Todd? You might not be so inclined to bear your throat, Brian.

But other than that, I loved your picturesque reminiscing and the image of Floyd from Mayberry popped into my mind.

Orr's said...

Wait a second, girls to that to but mostly we go from women to bitches in the salon. I didn't know they did the straight razor shave anymore, that is frightening. BTW I do hair now so be shy.

Iddy Albatross said...

Never have I read something so deep and meaningful about something as regular as the every-other-weekend trip to the barber.

Beautiful post, this. Great one. Cheers...

Bernie said...

Barbers are going the way of the shoe maker.....very hard to find either anymore....a shame really isn't it......:-) Hugs

Kay said...

it's the simple pleasures in life that give way to pure bliss! your writing among them! Happy New Year to you and your family! :)

Protege said...

Wow, great post, for so many different reasons... You know, I find men shaving an extremely sensual activity.
How interesting that the same barber cut your hair and your sons hair. My father always cut his own hair as well and I *never* cut my hair.;) I so agree about the notion of "sweeping the mistakes away".
Wonderful sentiments as always...
Zuzana

Deb said...

Happy New Year ! I took a bit of a blogging break as I attempted to get my life in order but I now realize that is never going to happen so I am back. I look forward to reading your reflections on life throughout 2010 ! Take care.

Brian Miller said...

protege, it is for us as well...

barb, big step there...now he can never stop.

bernie, it is a shame...

alix, every time i bare my throat, i will think of that now...lol.

the walking man said...

Last time (about 30 odd years ago) I had a wet shave it was in a beauty salon. On a whim, a very hot summer day I decided it was time to get rid of the beard.

I remember it so well because she had huge, mammoth, and rather large breasts. She laid me back in her chair, laid those girls on my forehead and shaved me clean.

No barber shop was ever able to compare after that and no amount grace has made me want to be shaved since.

sheila said...

Only YOU can make memories of a barber sound lovely. Very nice and nostalgic

Goofball said...

mmm I think for women the equivalent is a hairdresser visit or even better: a beauty salon where you get a facial massage!

mo.stoneskin said...

" Mostly I do alright"

And some days it goes terribly, terribly wrong?

;)

JStar said...

Nice :)

secret agent woman said...

I can't even remember for sure the last time I had my hair cut somewhere. It's straight and I mostly wear it in a ponytail anyway, so I'd rather spend my money on other things.

secret agent woman said...

I can't even remember for sure the last time I had my hair cut somewhere. It's straight and I mostly wear it in a ponytail anyway, so I'd rather spend my money on other things.

Daniel said...

I used to go to an "old-fashioned" barber shop back when I was a kid (and when I actually had something to cut). It was definitely a barber shop and not a "salon". It was a different place with its own feel and its own atmosphere. You captured that spirit with your words. Blessings.

Jill said...

Gotta have a little GRACE every day...I thank God for it!

buffalodick said...

I went to the same barber for over 40 years- the first time was the day John F. Kennedy was shot. I was 12. Mel saw me grow up, go to college, get married, have kids, and become fairly successful in business. I wrote one of my earliest posts about his passing. He wasn't that good of a barber, but he was a great human being..

Travel & Dive Girl said...

Ahhh, there's nothing like a little grace and it's great to get it when you can.

Lorraine said...

My brain doesn't function well today ...I have the flue. I'm trying to think of the popular American Artist who use to draw Americana John something Roswell? I'm drawing a blank...whatever this is so beautiful it reminds of his (Roswell?) painting of Americana, your text here would go beautifully...

ps Let Life breathe you....I stole it, read my comment comes from a prayer and I tell you Brian it'll bring you strength when you really need it

Enchanted Oak said...

As a woman, I've never had this experience, and I envy you, having read this glorious, vivid tale. Thank you for letting me into a world I've never known.

Mama Zen said...

You've created such a great atmosphere with this. Wonderful!

Anonymous said...

I wish Mr. Brown and Richard could see your blog. You have captured the atmosphere of the barber shop where I spent a lot of time waiting for you and your brother to get your haircuts. It truly is a special place. It would be a shame for barber shops to disappear.

Mom said...

My comment came up as anonymous but know you knew it was me.

Rain said...

Wonderful description!
:)

Quirkyloon said...

Somehow I can't afford to give myself the grace I've forgotten, because when I trim my own hair (and I do) it's spooky!

Great post. It's always a pleasure to read your blog.

TechnoBabe said...

I used to see so many old fashioned barber shops around, but I cut my own hair and I cut my kids' hair, so they did not get to experience the smells and talk inside a barber shop. This is a wonderful story though.

Heidi said...

My Hus and son go to the barber together to get their hair cuts. They make an afternoon of it, always stopping to get an ice cream on the way home. I'm sure these are creating fond memories for both of them.

subby said...

Good one Brian. And I let the barber do the cutting, heh~ouch! Well, what's left to cut anyway :P And I don't give in to the "sports talk", heh...

Grand Pooba said...

Last time I went to get my hair cut, I had to leave early and never got it cut. Nice.

Great post!

Medora said...

I would never cut my own hair - or my kids'. My sister in law cuts all three of her children's hair, and the poor children look like orphans. My mom is always furious when she gets the school pictures in the mail. Really, the woman can't shell out thirty bucks to get the poor things proper cuts?

The Retired One said...

Loved this one, too Brian...
And it is so different than the experience a woman has when they go to the salon.
They are usually searching for a new look. A rebirth of their younger, sexier self...
It amazes me so much as to how different men and women's experiences are.
Now, if you compare the men's shave to a woman shaving her legs...now maybe we are closer in experiences...
:-}

Little Ms Blogger said...

I think it easier to give another person grace or respect than to give to oneself.

We are sometimes our own worst enemy and need to find a way to be kinder to ourselves.

Baino said...

I think an old fashioned shave is probably similar to what we girly swats enjoy as a 'facial'. And I'm rather partial to running my fingers over a freshly shorn head .. not mine of course!

Together We Save said...

Another great post!!

Kathy's Klothesline said...

Your words took me back to the old barber shop I took my son to for his very first haircut. You captured it perfectly.

Michele said...

Great post!!

Otter Thomas said...

That really takes me to a familiar place. Very well done.

I have never had a shave at the barber shop though. I am curious, but I will probably just steer clear.

Ms Hen said...

This was magnificent. (hugs) Did you ever see the movie A Tree Grows in Brooklyn? The girl goes to get her father shaving cup after he died. Each man used to have his own cup on a shelve for his weekly shave.

Your poetic style story reminded me of that movie. It is based on the book of the same name.. by Betty Smith

Chhaya said...

Hey Brian

i really admire your acute sense of noticing things. love the way you describe them

love the way u write :)

btw, wud u mind if i write a story inspired from this write up? Kindly let me know. i will wait till i get a yes.
and yeah, wont mind u you dont want me to write it :)

Joanna Jenkins said...

This brought back a flood of memories of my grandfather, dad and brother. At one time or the other I've been to the barber with each of them and/or watched one use the clippers on the other. And come to think of it, I'm seen my brother use the clippers on his boys. I'm sitting her smiling and missing them all. Thanks for the reminder.
jj

kys said...

You, my friend, deserve to always give yourself grace.

Beautiful.

Candie Bracci said...

Really like that piece!:)

Corrie Howe said...

Hum??? I'm going to have to meditate on this image awhile. I love, as always, the image your words conjure up for me, but I'm having a little harder time connecting today's picture to grace...at least in my understanding of it.

Perfect Shave said...

This is a great post. You passionately wrote about something mundane to others, but you gave it a nice touch.
Thanks for sharing it to us.
It is nice that once in a while, we let ourselves be pampered. Sometimes I get my wet shaving from barber shops.