Friday, December 11, 2009

Mom

red lights flash as they pull out of my driveway, leaving me in a cloud of dust. all i can think is, moms are not supposed to hurt. they are invincible.

moms face down advancing hordes of bullies to save their kids.

moms wade into battles, dodging sticks and stones, to pull their kids out of the woods before they get hurt...by their ear.

moms go without sleep for days on end to watch over ailing children, never tiring in their vigil.

moms drive through a blizzard, in the middle of the night, to pick up their son from the hospital.

moms are always there when you need them.

moms...hurt sometimes...and as a son its hard to see.

mom and dad came to visit tonight and on the way down the stairs to go to bed, mom fell. for the first time, i had to use my first aid certification for something more than a band aid, on my mom. for the first time since having her last child, my mom is in the hospital.

i am pretty sure she broke her leg.

for now, we sit and wait in a white wall room, with a green and purple curtain, speckled linoleum tile floor...

and a mom that's hurt.

thoughts and prayers appreciated...

76 comments:

Kathleen said...

Oh my goodness, Brian, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Yes, prayers coming your way.

Must have been so frightening for you.

Sending healing beams of love...

Liza said...

I just spoke to my Mom a couple of hours ago, and she lectured me about being careful in the cold. I love Moms...
I wish your Mom the very best Brian, and I am visualizing that as well.

JeffScape said...

Crap. That sucks.

smiles4u said...

Have already prayed for her and will continue to do so. I am sorry this happened but I am thankful you are there with her through this. There is something about watching your mom hurt that cuts into your heart. Prayers for you too Brian. XX

Eleonora said...

Brian–

I'm so sorry about the news. Don't be scared, though. Moms are rocks, huge monumental wave-breaking boulders that, like you said, can accomplish anything for the sake of their children.
If her leg is broken, she'll will it healed, in order to see that worried look on your face disappear.

You always manage to move me with your perfect words, btw. How do you do it?

My prayers and positive thoughts are with your mom, with you and your family's circle of love, so tightly bound around her.

Ciao
Lola xx

Sam!! said...

Hi Brian,

Sorry to hear about your mum.. i ll pray for her health.. InshaAllah she ll b fine sooner.. mothers are gift of God..

Such a touching post..

God bless you n your family especialy your mum..

Take care

lettuce said...

they're with you Brian, I hope she is ok.

mothers are irreplaceable

otin said...

Oh that is terrible. I hope that she will be ok? I send her my best wishes for a fast recovery.

Maggie May said...

That was a terrible thing to happen but thank Goodness that you were there....... trained and able to organise the emergency.

Hoping that she makes a good recovery soon.

Nuts in May

Lorraine said...

Precious, precious mom, and I add my prayers x

Mrsupole said...

Hi Brian,

So sorry to hear about your mom's fall. I know those things can be very scary, but thank the lord that you were there with the knowledge to help her and I am sure that it was much appreciated.

My thoughts and prayers are being sent your way. Please let your mom know that we are praying for her good health to return. I am praying for you, your mom, and your family. And a special prayer for your boys who must also be so scared to have this happen to Grandma.

All will heal with time.

God bless.

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

God be with you both. I'm glad you were with her and able to lend strength and comfort to her as she's going through this. Its nice to know we can give back some of what was so freely given to us!

Alan Burnett said...

You convey emotions so well - even when the emotions are sadness and hurt. Hope your mom gets better very soon.

subby said...

I know my Mom would drive through a blizzard! Sending out healing rays and my best, Brian.

Bonnie, Original Art Studio said...

Brian, So sorry for your Mom and you! It hurts to see a parent in pain. I, too, send healing thoughts her way. (btw all those wonderful things you describe mothers doing for their children...that strength will carry her through her own hurts too). She is very lucky to have you.

Brian & Vanessa Bates said...

Saying prayers for your Mom :)

Nessa said...

My prayers are with you, Brian. I hope your mom stops hurting soon.

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Kimi@SoManyKidsSoLittleTime said...

Brian,

I can't imagine much scarier than that. I will be thinking of and praying for you and yours.

Brian Miller said...

quick update: mom broke both bones in her left calf right above the ankle. surgery this afternoon. off to work myself until then. catch up with everyone later.

Daniel said...

Prayers for you and your Mom this morning. I am sure that you are a source of love and strength for her.

Goofball said...

I hope your mother is not too much in pain and I hope she recovers swiftly!!!

It's true that having to take care of our parents feels unnatural. To see them in need of help is hard. Glad you could help with some first aid and that you were there for some reassurance.

Take care!

Candie Bracci said...

All my thoughts and prayers to your mother!A mom is also fragile.I hope she'll be well.Much love.

the walking man said...

Praying for the best possible outcome brother.

TechnoBabe said...

Accidents happen when we get older and visit in a place we aren't used to. I hope she isn't in pain for long and that a broken leg is the only thing broken. Like all your other readers, I am anxious to hear how she is and send my very best regards to her for a speedy recovery. Maybe your folks will be staying with you a little longer now, maybe that is a good thing.

Roxy said...

Prayers for your mom, Brian... hope she recovers without difficulty.

Wings said...

Ack! This is the fifth stair/falling tale I have heard in a month! I'm telling ya, they got it out for us!

Best wishes to your mom for a speedy recovery!

Beth said...

You are a great son! I am thinking healing thoughts for your mom...

She is lucky to have such a caring family.

Hilary said...

Oh no.. Brian, I'm sorry to hear that your Mom is hurting. Sending best healing thoughts her way. And hugs to you. Please let us know when she's out of surgery.

only a movie said...

Yikes, Brian. I hope she's doing ok. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.

I'm sure the surgery will go well and she will be mending soon.

Protege said...

I am truly very sorry to hear this.
I hope she will get better soon, there is nothing worse than someone that we care for deeply - being ill.
xoxo
Zuzana

buffalodick said...

Hope your Mom recovers quickly. Mine is gone now, and I know how you feel..

enchantedoak said...

I'm sending prayers from my little place in California. I know how traumatic that was.

Betsy said...

Oh, so very sorry. Keep us updated...prayers going up right now. Hope the surgery goes well this afternoon. A broken leg for Christmas...oh dear.

Loved the thoughts on moms. We're pretty neat, huh! ;)

Valerie said...

Moms are resilient, Brian. My best wishes to your Mom for a speedy recovery. I hope the leg heals quickly so that she can enjoy Christmas.

the b in subtle said...

so sorry to read this. reading this blog made me think of the phrase, "a rich child sits in a poor mother's lap" - it doesn't simply refer to material possessions. mothers sacrifice so much for their children so that they'll have a better life. they always pull through, as you've written. I have only just become a mother for the first time this year, but I know I would do ANYTHING for my darling child. So it's nice, in turn, that you are there for her now, when she needs some care. i hope she will recover quickly and smoothly. sending you and your family good, healing vibes...

Mama Zen said...

Brian, I'm so sorry! Prayers for your Mom!

AngelMay said...

Brian, all the very best to your mom - and a quick and thorough recovery. She has a lovely son. I'll bet she knows that.

Brian Miller said...

thanks for the love and warm wishes all...quick update...surgery will take place around 2 or 3 pm and last about 3 hours....will update again on the other side...

Dianne said...

Just when I can't blog anymore, I read your post. Your mom will need you, and the anesthesia will disorient her, depending on her age. See if someone can sleep in the room the first 24 hours or so, just in case she's confused.

you never know, do you, She will be so disappointed this happened before the holidays. Tell her how much you love her (often) and are glad she's still around in every other way.
because, LITSNT (life is too short not to) Today is my dad's birthday who died skiing at the age of 66, after being told not to. He said he retired to ski 7 days a week, not to quit.
Dianne

lakeviewer said...

Thoughts and prayers on their way. She'll be all right. She'll be uncomfortable and incapacitated, needing assistance, but she will regain her strength and her agility very soon.

She is a lucky mom to have such a thoughtful child.

Jill said...

OH NO! I am SO sorry Brian!
Prayers for your MOM! I hope it is not as bad as it seemed.

McGillicutty said...

I love the way you write... Moms ARE strong and she won't want you to worry!! Now you get to take care of her, Mom's need that sometimes too.
Hope all goes well... sending love and prayers.
p.s.thanks for commenting.. I so appreciate you following my blog, you're a nice man Brian Miller!!!

Tom said...

oh no! Hoping for a fast mending...Although she might enjoy being waited on hand and foot! Take care.

Kathy's Klothesline said...

Prayers for your Mom. Hard to do a role reversal, isn't it? I hope her surgery goes well and she is back in your home soon. Sending good thoughts and prayers YOUR way, too!

Michele said...

Oh Brian...
That is terrible. I'm so sorry to hear that :( How scary for all of you.
Sending thoughts and prayers your way ♥

Matty said...

Oh no, I'm sorry to hear. Let us know how she's doing. My parents are coming for the holidays too. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed while they're here, because we have a 2 story house.

Ms Hen said...

Oh Brian..so sorry about your mom's fall and upcoming surgery. Keeping her in my prayers. Please keep us updated.. (hugs) to you and your family, especially your mother.

Betty Ann

Lisa (aka LadyWanderlust) said...

Oh, most definitely...prayers of healing for your mom, prayers of peace for those who love and worry about her.

Hugs, Lisa

Nancy said...

I'm so sorry, Brian. Wishing her a speedy recovery. Thank goodness she had her strong, young son right there to help her.

My youngest says her worst fear is me falling - and she hovers whenever we hike together. It's not like I'm eighty! I wonder where that comes from...

An Open Heart said...

Brian,
Candles lit, prayers in motion.....


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Bachelor said...

Brian,
Hate to hear about your mom. My prayers go out to her and you. I've been geting caught up here reading your posts. As always great creative writing! The Bach

LadyCat said...

Brian, I am keeping your Mom in my prayers and my thoughts are with her during surgery. Mothers are a treasure : )

Holly Jahangiri said...

Oh, OUCH. How's your mom doing today? Hope everyone's waiting on her hand and foot. ;) A few years ago, my parents were here visiting. My dad got the bright idea to try out my daughter's skateboard (like it HADN'T been 50 years since he'd stepped on one) and managed about 3 nanoseconds before going down hard on the concrete. Yep - he broke his wrist and he broke it good. He had surgery, which involved a metal bar (on the outside of his arm) and pins on the inside, and months of healing. But hey, when someone says, "How on earth did you do that?" it's better than the story I'd likely have to tell (I'm such a klutz). He managed to drive 8 hours home before the surgery, by the way.

This was a beautiful, heartfelt post. I hope you share it with your mom. As a mom, it made me all teary-eyed, kind of like Billy Collins' "The Lanyard" always does. (I have one daughter and one son, and I know what it feels like both as a daughter AND a mother.)

Hope your mom's bones knit fast.

Maha said...

Nothing can possibly hurt more than seeing the one you love the most in pain and then find yourself completely helpless. I've been there before that's why I' praying for her tonight.

Brian Miller said...

quick update: mom has been in surgery for about an hour...all seems to be going well...thanks for all the love today.

rxBambi said...

some more love and good thoughts from me. It's scary when moms get hurt. She's in my prayers.

ps- please don't leave your skates on the stairs anymore. I told you this would happen.

Brian Miller said...

update: mom is out of surgery. 4 screws, 1 metal plate and some wire all wrapped up in a cast...she is in good spirits...now on to recovery!

Respectfully Yours said...

Sending prayers your way. Hugs to your mom, hoping she feels better soon.

God Bless

Tall Kay said...

I'm so sorry this happened to your mama. She is so very blessed that you were there. What a gift to have so many sending prayers. We got His attention and she's in good hands :o)

...mmm... said...

Oh i do hope your mother is well soon. this is a lovely tribute to someone who obviously was a real mom when sadly some are anything but.

I can't believe you actually wrote this under such duress and then have even been able to give us updates. writing just comes so naturally for you.

clean and crazy said...

prayers for you and yours, thank goodness mom is still here, and this time you were her hero, how sweet is that. sorry it took so long to stop by, but this time of year has been especially busy and service work tomorrow... merry christmas!!

Ronda Laveen said...

The tibia and fibula? Bummer! Prayers for mom's speedy recovery. Ouch!

blueviolet said...

Oh my gosh, how terrifying!!! I am sooooo sorry! I'm glad that the surgery went well and that's she in good spirits! I will pray for a quick recovery for her!!!

Thank you for the updates!

tori said...

read all the updates. glad surgery went well and I will continue to pray for her quick recovery.

The Retired One said...

So sorry, Brian!
I am reading this late as we are still on vacation...
seeing a parent hurt is really a reversal of roles and hard to ever get used to.
As a nurse, one piece of advice. When she gets out of the hospital, she will not want to take her pain meds.
MAKE HER DO so. And tell her from me that she "won't become dependent on them". So many of them are afraid of this and when you are in pain, you don't become dependent on them. Plus it will help her heal faster. Hugs to your entire family! You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

BeautifulWreck said...

I am very sad to read about your mom. I saw the update a post above and glad she is better tho with a broke leg for the holidays.

I am sure tho the grandchildren will always remember this Christmas, and how they decorated Grandma's leg all up.Lemonade from lemons and all that.

Baino said...

Oh such a shame when the're visiting. I've been watching your FB posts. She's in good hands but so sorry it had to happen. One of the reasons I don't have a two storey house . . the thought of stairs as I get older is a little scarey. I hope she's comfortable and home soon. Thinking of you.

Joanna Jenkins said...

YIKES! I'm a day behind and just catching up. how terrible. I hope your Mom is on the mend and her recovery is easy and complete.

jj

Meeko Fabulous said...

I hope she's ok. I keep looking out for your updates on Twitter. Mom's are truly magical creatures, aren't they?

Drahdrah said...

I hope that she will be ok. I understand exactly what you mean about mom's are supposed to be invincible. Prayers going out your way.

kys said...

So sorry for her. I'm sending my good thoughts and prayers your way.

Ben said...

Glad to hear from your other post that she made it through. That must have been a rough night.

Corrie Howe said...

I'm late to this, I read the ending first. Must have been very scary for you. Glad everyone made it okay.

I agree, moms and dads aren't supposed to be in the hospital. My dad had a massive heart attack this spring and was unconscious 13 days.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

I'm always a day late and a dollar short - but I'm so glad that I already read she's doing well, because an event like this is really scary!

Keeping her (and you) in my thoughts and prayers! ((HUGZ!!))

Holly Jahangiri said...

How's your mom doing today, Brian? I trust her "elves" are waiting on her hand and aching foot? :) Please give her my regards! Enjoy the holidays!

Margie said...

It's been a while Brian but I hope your mom is doing great now!
I'll keep her (and you and all your family) in my prayers.

Margie.