Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Star

I named a star after my wife.

It was years ago, one of those anniversaries where you are supposed to get a paperclip or a splinter. I figured a star was pretty romantic, in a geeky Star Trek kinda way.

Love will make you do some pretty stupid things sometimes.

I guess if you think about it love itself is a risk.

You give them the opportunity to check yes our no in the little boxes of your heart as you pass it over. Not knowing what to expect.

Yes or No.

Like asking a girl to dance at home coming.

And hoping she doesn't laugh.

Leaving you feeling naked in front of the entire gym.

I mean what if it doesn't work out?

Will we still be friends?

What if he hurts me?

What if she says that to all the guys?

What if it all comes tumbling down
and all the kings horses
and all the kings men
can't put my heart back together again?

If we choose not to risk, do we choose not to love?

Sitting on the front porch with the boys, I point to the heavens...

That twinkling light is named after your mom, put there to replace her when she fell to the earth...

and daddy risked it all to chase a shooting star.

42 comments:

The Things We Carried said...

Brian, she must love you to pieces! FABULOUS post. Wonderful daddy to your children for loving their mother so.

Megan said...

Nothing wrong with geeky Star Trek types. The world needs more of them.

smiles4u said...

The greatest gift a father can give his children is to love their mother deeply. This was beautiful.

Kathleen said...

Well, then, it's hard to add anything. It's all been said by smiles4you, IMHO, of course.

But I'll shall endeavor:
Tender to the bone, Brian. And it certainly helps me understand the hearts of my 2 beautiful boys better.

Live long and prosper . . . friend

An Open Heart said...

aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!

;o)
S

Thanks for your comments on last night's post.....

Joanna Jenkins said...

You are teaching your sons very good lessons about women-- we LOVE that kind of stuff. Your boys will be great catches" when they grow up.

♥ Braja said...

Sigh.....
:)
I like smiles4u's comment....so true...

Kay said...

loving another is risking EVERYTHING; yet, it seems, you never regret...can't help but wonder, "Can you always find that star?" great resemblence to a star...even though you can't see it, it is always there, very sweet, romantic gesture.

Meeko Fabulous said...

~sigh~ that's all i can say after reading that . . . ~sigh~ Have you ever seen Stardust? It reminds me of that movie. :)

Goofball said...

it's so cool to have a star named after her.

Leah said...

I agree with everything everyone said--it's a beautiful thing for your boys to see what you feel for their mama.

Elizabeth Bradley said...

Aw, jeeze...lucky wife, lucky sons, lucky you.

Candie Bracci said...

That was beautiful!You are a star too!

SandyCarlson said...

Ooohh....Now that's romantic. And sweet. And a beautiful gift to your sons, too.

otin said...

I wonder if you can name a black hole after someone!!! LOL!

Very nice tribute to your wife! :)

only a movie said...

Wonderful wonderful post, Brian. So simple and heartfelt. You should link to Sprite's Keeper for the b.day/anniversary theme.

Beth said...

I love that you love your wife so much!

Daniel said...

In a geeky Star Trek kind of way, ..., indeed. Smiles.

subtorp77 said...

"and daddy risked it all to chase a shooting star"; yep...you're one heck of a romantic ;) This is great, Brian!!

Wings said...

Very sweet, Brian.

willow said...

That is just about THE most romantic thing ever!

TechnoBabe said...

You are romantic and loving with your wife and a wise father to show that to your boys. Great post.

Betsy said...

Very sweet and romantic! What girl wouldn't melt when you explain it like that!? :)

Marianna said...

awwwwwwwww sweet!

xoxoxo

The Clever Pup said...

Wow, how poetic. You must be one great hubby.

A regular George Bailey - "I'll give you the moon."

Hey that gives me an idea. See you later.

Jen of A2eatwrite said...

So sweet, Brian. And I think that would be just an amazing anniversary gift.

Ben said...

I absolutely love the fact that love is a risk. It compels me to become a stronger, more courageous man, knowing that I'll one day be put to the test to see if I'll too risk it all. Thanks for the good encouragement.

Brian Miller said...

@things we carried - i just try to keep up with the love i get from them.

@megan - you mean i can start carrying my batleth around again? lol.

@smiles4u - there is a lot of wisdom in that...

@kathleen - if you could see my split fingered hand in response...smiles.

@open heart - smiles. we have all been there.

@joanna - now if they can just marry a rich lady and let me retire to write...lol...ok they can marry for love...

@braja - smiles. yes it is.

@kay - smiles. i think you can as long ass you are willing not to settle.

@meeko - have not...need to remedy that.

@goofball - yeah...

@leah - i try, hopeing that osmosis kicks in...

@elizabeth - i am the lucky one...

@candie - ty.

@sandy - smiles.

@otin - lol. i named this after you because it sucks everything up and made me think of you...lol.

Alix said...

This post actually made me sigh.

Alan Burnett said...

There are so many comments it somehow seems superfluous to add one more saying all the things which have already been said. But you are good. You deserve being told so again and again.

Ronda Laveen said...

And all is as it should be on Earth and the heavens.

Brian Miller said...

@alix - its the same thing i do every morning when i roll over...

@AB - its never a party until you get here...smiles.

@ronda - amen.

Cinnamon said...

It's heart-warming to hear that love is still alive :)

What is happening over here Brian?- this is fantastic!

Nancy said...

Good move, Daddy.

Valerie said...

You're a great bloke, Brian!

Alyson (New England Living) said...

So beautiful!! Love it. Your wife is very blessed that you cherish her so dearly.

Isn't it wonderful to be married and not worry about dating and all the "what ifs" anymore? I hated all that and you captured it perfectly.

Thanks for what you said on my blog. I needed it! :)

ds said...

Beautiful. Not geeky at all. Just beautiful.

Pastor Sharon said...

This is lovely!

Amy said...

What a romantic!!! She is a lucky lady!! Nothing geeky about that. I would love a star. . . as long as I knew EXACTLY which one it was and could see it often. How cool!!!
What a great way to teach your boys to love.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Naming a star after her in lieu of a paper clip or a splinter was brilliant, my friend. The love you have for your wife and boys is so wonderful to read. You ROCK! :)

Lorraine said...

ahhh to have the courage to love that much...very impressive Brian!
You know, you could put all your posts together in one book, add some photos here and there, and voilĂ , real stories for real people, sort of a Literate version of 'Reality TV'

The Retired One said...

I know before you said you were the lucky one..but Brian, she really is a lucky woman.
Your romantic side must be wonderful for her.