Monday, June 22, 2009

Any day


Why aren't we catching any fish?

It probably has nothing to do with your brother jousting the water...I don't know maybe they are not hungry.

But I see them and they look hungry.

Pondering for a second, Maybe if we cast out deeper...

Arm swings back in perfect javelin form, eyes focused mid-lake, snapping back with timed release. The trail of line arches through the clouds and lands with a loud splash along with the top half of the pole.

Did you mean to do that?

Yeah, figured if we could not hook them at least we could spear them. No, I did not mean to do that...

Sometimes things don't go like you plan. You try your best only to find your pole floating away from you, as fish share a laugh at your expense. They steal your bait and leave your hook barren, tease you and taunt you to frustration. Even when they are hungry they turn their nose up at your offer, afraid of the barbs that come with it. Sometimes you wait and wait for the moment that the stars align, only to find naught.

You will want not to try. Give up. Go home. Throw your tackle into the closet to gather dust, smiling at you every time you open the door. These days will make you forget you ever thought about what you could accomplish. You'll tell lies to friends on how everything is fine or how big the fish was, to hide your pain. Don't. We all have those days. Today will soon be gone, erased by plenty of tomorrows, if you let it.

The best part anyway is we did it together.

Bad days become better, when we face them together, any day.

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Originally I wrote this for friends of mine that are facing marriage struggles, but as I was reading my blog roll today I happened upon a very special post by a good friend. Her words struck me, and seemed apropo. Enjoy.

26 comments:

Mrsupole said...

Thank you Brian,
It is funny how they both tie in together. I hope we are starting a movement towards something that can help. Time will only tell.

God bless.

willow said...

Okay. I won't throw my tackle in the closet. I almost did today.

Baino said...

Brian so true, it's not the catching but the being together. I'm happy doing anything with company rather than alone!

Verily I go. said...

I see that exact moment of shock. That plan flying off like that. Shock. A better tomorrow, yes please. Freedom Seed was wrenching, thanks for sharing.

otin said...

If I was with a friend, I would fish all day and not care if I caught anything!
Here are your Questions:

1). Do you have a favorite author?
2). Do you feel that it is ok to spank a child with your hand, if he or she is being unruly?
3). Where is one place that you would love to go, but probably will never get the opportunity?
4). Do you believe that there is other life in the universe?
5). Which US President intrigues you the most?
Have fun!

otin said...

If you want to answer more, just add on Subbys!

Alicia @ boylerpf said...

Great post...and even better advice. After being married for 30 years, I can say that even though we have had the roller coaster for a life, we did it all together. Way better than riding the merry-go-round. Thanks for stopping by..I've enjoyed your blog immensely!

Candie Bracci said...

This is an amazing post and really true indeed.

I can't help myself projecting into the future when I see this picture of you and your son.I picture my son and his dad in few years time.He cannot wait to go and fish with him.

Michael said...

From my recollection the best fishing you ever did was bare handed... down on the James. ;)

Nice post. BTW, the picture is haunting. It looks like you standing next to you. I remember both.

-DF

subtorp77 said...

I can so relate to this, Brian. And I'm answering your questions, as well( grabbing pen and paper )...

Tom said...

hey Brian, you're right...fishing isn't about catching fish...As many times as i've gone fishing(but not for many years) i think i can remember just about every fish i ever caught. On my left hand in fact.

LENORENEVERMORE said...

Belated Happy Father's day to you dear!
'Bad days become better'...like that very much!!! Hug your kids for me okie! ~SWEET*

The Things We Carried said...

This post was so true. So many things turn out to be about the relationships and not the event itself. Many relationships get lost in bad events. Sad.

Megan said...

Happy belated father's day from me, too!

Ronda Laveen said...

Wonderful Gone fishin' post. Some days the fishies just need to win. Nice link to the MRS.

Daniel said...

Sweet story today and a nice photo to go along with it. Thanks.

SandyCarlson said...

A beautiful story--a lovely metaphor. Thanks for this gentle lesson.

An a literal note....I remember fishing with my dad when I was young. The worst part was catching a fish. Then we had to do something aside from hang out and say nothing!

Kate Hanley said...

Great post. I was thinking that same thing the other day when none of my kids' friends could play, it was the first day out of school and they were out of sorts, so we played basketball, poorly, and had a great time.

Lorraine said...

That's a good post Brian, I enjoyed it. I went to see your friend's post and understood. I don't have answers, but I know that when I see a spider, or some kind of crawlies or even mice, I try to catch them first usually with an empty margarine bowl and cover and throw them out, that is unless of my 3 cats get to them first. Life is harsh sometimes...
ps I adore the photo
PSS I left a link to my son's music on my post :)

Valerie said...

Great post, Brian. The picture said it all.

Beth said...

I love feeding worms to fish. That is what always happens when I go fishing!

Debo Hobo said...

Gosh you are so insightful...where do you come up with this stuff?

I hope your friend make it through their struggles ok.

Lover of Life said...

Yes, we all have those days. I'm off to your friend's blog..

Suldog said...

Nicely done. You have a wonderful way with words.

Thanks for the kind words over at my place, by the way. They were appreciated very much.

Louise said...

I like your analogy. (Although fishing isn't my thing, and if I had fishing equipment, it would be in the closet anyway!)And the pictures. It all went together to make a wonderful post. Thanks for stopping by mine!

Pinkerbell said...

"Bad days become better, when we face them together" - good sentiments!

Thanks for visiting me, I was trying to follow you but my computer won't do that.. I'll just have to remember to come back!

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