Monday, May 18, 2009

I'm No Tennis Pro

It's all Luke and Cheryl's fault. Good friends from our community group on Fridays, reintroduced us to tennis a couple weeks ago. This may or may not be a good thing. I can be a little competitive...actually my diagnostic scoring puts me in the "Uber" category. Mix that with the fact that neither my wife or I have been on a court in a few years, it can get interesting.

Imagine your first time on roller skates and you would get a pretty good picture of how the first set went, stumbling around the court like an inebriated giraffe. They kept saying "love" (in the score) so everything was okay. Did I really get hit with the ball from behind? Was that on purpose? 3-1, Luke and Cheryl.

As we worked our way through three more sets we started to find our rhythm together and fought to a standstill 2-2 in each set. We had a chance to win the last one, but it slipped away. I think they were being generous when they saw the look in my eyes after the first set, the same look you get when the tabs on your kids toys won't quite fit on Christmas Eve.

A few thoughts on playing well with others:

1. The relationship is always more important than the game. The game has a definite end and if you don't get this one right, so will the relationship.

2. We all have different strengths. Knowing this helps you compensate. Everyone is not as good as you are. Ooops! What I mean to say is you (I) have our weaknesses too and if we own that and surround ourselves with people that are good in those areas, we will accomplish a lot more. Leting each person play to their strengths keeps them from getting frustrated when you try to "teach them how to do it right."

3. If you point out the good things your partner does, more frequently than the bad, they work a whole lot harder. Seems obvious, but hard to remember in the heat of the moment.

4. Sometimes it takes a few games for "team" and "mates" to get it together. There is a certain rhythm that has to be found when working with others, as you figure each other out. It can be pretty enduring, but if you are intentional about this process, it creates beautiful music.

5. One game does not make or break a career, but if you see a trend you may want to change the game you are playing. There is a reason Monopoly is not allowed in our house, but that is another story for another day.

12 comments:

willow said...

Oh, man, I don't think I've played tennis for about 25 years.

Cool pic, Brian. You should use it as your avatar!

Baino said...

Mr Miller, where's your hat you'll be burnt to a crisp! Good advice!

Daniel said...

Brian, you have that intensity in your eye in this photo, like you will not accept losing on any terms. The stare down can be so effective in times of competition.

Brian Miller said...

@willow - like riding a bike...well maybe a little harder, ha. blogger seems to have eaten my previous avatar, will try again.

@baino - ah but i enjoy the sun too much. i know, my dad has had multiple skin cancers so i best listen.

@daniel - all in the eyes...windows to the heart...better work on that...lol

Matt Kuchera said...

I agree dude, completely. It works for the work environment, in my case your life is in your teammates hands, so we practice to make it right, and we stay positive with each other.

Candie Bracci said...

Hi,cool post Brian!I haven't played tennis in years,never played seriously though.Might go back running soon(but it has nothing to do with the subject,lol),well i think the relationship is important too.VoilĂ ,lol.
Have a nice day :)

Leah said...

I really like your rules to play (and live) by. And the last comment, about Monopoly, made me giggle in anticipation of a story to come hopefully!

Marianna said...

This post reminded me of two things...first my feelings exactly when in Manchester. See I joined a ping-pong club. My roomate from Taiwan convinced me it would be fun. Well it was, till I realised...I can't play and that, man the Chinese are good at table tennis!

As for the second thing...a funny scene from 'friends' (the hit show from the 90s). Monica playing table tennis (talk about hard competition!)! Enjoy...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gw2zeiQ2vg0

Oh and Brian thank you so so much for your birthday wishes!

Take care
xoxo

Ronda Laveen said...

I played on the All City Jr. Tennis team when young. Many years ago. Loved the game and it can be quite competition oriented but, as you pointed out, opportune for relationship building. Like Willow sez: pic would be great for Avatar.

BluNBlond said...

thanks for the reminders! I can get too competitive at times as well1

Anonymous said...

I know why monopoly isn't allowed in your home. Deep down you know it's simply wrong that only one company makes that game.

-DF

Megan said...

Nice post Brian. Is Sorry allowed in your house?