Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Theme Thursday: Eggs

Somewhere in South America...she lay exhausted, a sudden emptiness yet warmth in having passed near a hundred eggs. Her dutiful male lifts them gingerly upon her back, arranging them just so. By some biological science she cannot fathom, her skins swells around them, creating a pit for each egg to rest. Soon enough they will hatch and the tadpoles will snuggle warm in the home her flesh created for several months. A second "hatching" will occur, when her babies are fully grown, as they push through their protective covering, tearing loose to freedom and to swim away.




Some articles describe an underwater dance in which the female releases the eggs and the movements of the male send them to their resting place on her back. This is the dance of the Surinam Toad. Bizarre, I know, yet beautiful as well. The male attracts it's mate, not with a croak, but with a clicking noise.

I have found myself talking more and more with couples that have struggled in marriage. What started as an intricate dance of courtship, died with the fertilization of an egg. Once they had kids, it became too hard to keep the fires of romance burning. We forget the things that once won the heart of another. Our busy schedules, compounded by soccer, school...

Tara and I make it a point to schedule a date night frequently. Well, maybe not as frequently as we should. When we are not intentional about it, it becomes easy to let the excuses get in the way. Heard a great question on the radio the other day...what have you done for your marriage today?

30 comments:

Mariane said...

Wow ! A frog, then science, than a dance and then, marriage. Only you can do that in one story ! Since I started that journey with Theme Thursday, I knew I didn't know how to write in english. I thought, well, I'm going to write it and then my boyfriend his going to check it. Unfortunately, I needed more help than I thought. I was scared to loose my helper. But turns out, he's enjoying it... I think. So we have a funny rendez-vous every wednesday night.(And now, forgive me but I have to scream is name so he can come help me with that commentary too. Honneeeyyyyy !) Nice post. :o)

Leah said...

A good question to ask one's self every day.

And yes, by gosh, we need a date night away from the stresses of the Little Egg!!!

Ronda Laveen said...

Nice segue to segue to segue. You are the King of Transitions. Next month, we will be married 33 years. Relationships range from hot to cold to lukewarm and back again. One of the best things you can do for a marriage is just keep the game going. It's possible to fall head over heels in love again even after 30 years. Often, couples throw in the towel too soon. Thought provoking post.

SHOKOOFEH said...

Hi Brian.
here to thank you for your concern!

have a great day!

Mrsupole said...

It is 35 years this year. Can only say to keep the date nights coming. Ronda said it very well. Or just keep the froggy dance coming and agoing. I think showing love for each other as much as possbile keeps it going even if it is just a soft touch to the cheek with an I love you.

Interesting story about how the little tadpoles are born. And the froggy dance was described oh so well.

Thank you for sharing all those stories together in one.

God bless.

reyjr said...

good advice, especially for us who are not married yet! :D

Marianna said...

Didn't know that about frogs lol

And a good question on relationships...difficult but gotta keep on trying!

Have a great day Brian
xoxo

Candie Bracci said...

Hi Brian,loved how you expressed yourself through the theme.Yes relationships can be tough,we all been there.There are some periods too,ups and down.Now I don't know your story and how long you've been together ect..I wish that things will get better.If you both want it,there's no reason it can happen.


Have a nice day!

Wings said...

Wow, now that is post that took a major left turn.

Good bit of wisdom to think on. It does get too easy to just put that aspect of life on the back burner.

Jaime said...

i didn't know all that about frogs. we tried to get date night going before we had kids. tried, of course, because work always seemed to get in the way. we're going to have to try to start that up again.

Brian Miller said...

Been married 13 years to an amazing woman...she puts up with me, how could she not be amazing. ha. more in love today than i ever have been. marriage takes work though. when you think you have arrived, you have so far to go. happy TT all!

willow said...

Egg...toads...marriage! All nicely tied together! All our eggs have hatched and flown the coop. Now it's one flew over the cockoo's nest around here. ;^)

Gary said...

Who knew?

You have a clever way of connecting seemingly unrelated topics. Well done!

Long live frogs and long live marriage.

The Clever Pup said...

Interesting stuff. I hear frogs all over the world are dying out. Don't know why.

I know one couple completely wrecked by trying to conceive. On the junkheap now. 2 couples who tried invitro gave up and conceived on their own and one couple who did have a testtube baby.

Michael Rawluk said...

It is amazing that those little guys can be so important to us. Frogs are a lightning rod for environmental damage.

subtorp77 said...

Interesting how you mingle everything together, here. Kudos! And may you have a long and beautiful marriage! Happy Easter and God bless!

mouse (aka kimy) said...

the frogs are the new canaries for our little blue planet....

nice that you and tara are so mindful about taking time for each other.... an excellent (or should I say egg-cellent) marital survival tactic!

Baino said...

Nice segue indeed! And a date night is a fantastic idea . . all I need is a date!

Dakota Bear said...

I've learned something about frogs, thank you.

Megan said...

What Baino said. :)

I didn't know that about those frogs. How strange and curious the world is!

California Girl said...

Your post and another post remind me of catching tadpoles as a child. My brother called them pollywogs. In fact, I called him today to ask the name of the park where we did that and he remembered: Tapia Park in Malibu Cyn. So you and the other blogger (I've read so many now I forget which one) brought back a cherished memory.

Brian Miller said...

@cali...glad to do so and glad they were fond

@clever pup...sad

@gary..thanks, i like a good twist at the end :)

Cinema,Noir,Books,and Music... said...

Hi! Brian Miller,
I have to echo the sentiments of all the previous commentators...very nice! triple seque(s)...I really enjoyed reading your post very informative. Thanks, for sharing!...and Happy
Easter!...to you and your family. (As a matter of fact, Happy Easter! to all the Thursday Theme members!),but when it comes to marriage...What Megan said, and before her what Baino...and before her what Reyjr said...lol
Thanks,
Deedee ;-D

Tom said...

after 3 kids my wife is still my best friend...but these kids sure do take a lot much effort, time and .....money!
I read the other day that there are toads everywhere in the world, except the artic zones.

lettuce said...

wow, thats an amazing process, I had no idea

you write really well, and what you say about marriage is a lesson i've learned via very hard route

but hard work can win through
:-)

tony said...

Yes Brian.I have not thought about this in that way before.It's True.A Couple dance around a new human egg.The dance makes us tired (never mind the midnight nappy-changing!)But a Child changes the focus (as it should)But,its as if "A Couple" is born as well as a Child?

Coffee Messiah said...

Nicely done and relationships need tender loving care, 2 B sure ; )

Evening Light Writer said...

I'm not married so I don't know the first thing about it but I imagine it must be something that you have to constantly work at and nurture..maybe like an egg? Nice post, I think some married people don't really understand that.

VE said...

Kids...one bad egg and there goes date night! Nice story...

Kris said...

I have eaten tadpoles.