Sunday, March 1, 2009

Yes Man

Took in a movie last night with my good friend Russon. We went to see Yes Man, a recent Jim Carrey movie, about a man that discovers the power of saying "Yes" to every request put before him. There are several hilarious moments as Carl commits himself to everything that comes along, from flying lessons, to Korean language classes, to photographic jogging. There is a disturbing scene when a request is made by an elderly lady, so beware.

Along the way, Carl learns several important things. The power in saying Yes, is found in embracing new experiences. We miss out on a lot of life by saying "No" or believing that we are not good enough to accomplish something, or that we have nothing to give. On the other hand, Carl realises that you can not say yes to everything. Relationships lose their specialness and little time is left for the important things.

I have found that when you say "yes" to one thing, you are saying "no" to another. In other words, you are choosing to place the importance of one activity over another. There are many good things we need need to say "no" to so we can be great at what is really important in our lives. At the same time, we don't need to let our disbelief in ourselves limit what we choose to attempt.

7 comments:

tony said...

I Often feel i say "yes" too much in my life.I hope someone asks me if i would like to go see it...........:)

Daniel said...

I like your point about saying yes to too many requests. Instead of being great at a few endeavors, we become good or merely satisfactory at a large number. I have not fully learned the act of saying no, but I am better now than when I was younger.

Vince Farrell said...

Great post! This was a "fun" movie to see. I just shared in Peru with Pastors of churches to say no to more things in their ministry. Talk about a wake up call, it was awesome response. I believe in the principle of "This one thing I do" Like you said, saying yes to something means saying no to something else. We sometimes don't do it cause there are a lot of "good" things to say yes to...."the fruit looked good to Eve".....it's hard to say no to good things, but when we do we are making the good things we say YES to, great. I'd rather do a few things great than a lot of things good, or honestly poor.

I've learned to say no. I've paid the price for it too. But it's been worth it!!!! I'll never go back to that type of living.

Brian Miller said...

i am with you vince. i have crossed that line into too much and been left with little to show for it. doing a few things really great makes all the difference, personally and professionally.

Dot-Com said...

Being open-minded is important, but it's equally important to be able to say no. Sometimes we get snowed under by not saying no often enough, and while that might seem positive, it can cause problems in the end. Getting the balance right is tricky :-)

Brian Miller said...

too true dot-com.

Rob said...

Great post Brian. One thing you need to say yes to is Twitter. I'm telling you it will spread your blog love.